Butt in or keep my trap shut?

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Butt in or keep my trap shut?
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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 10:17am

Ds almost 19 has moved out with a friend...however the house they have moved into is a horrid nightmare!! It is absolutely dilapidated for lack of a better word. To the point of a few broken windows that need to be replaced. Ds says they got a great deal because they get the first two months rent free and then after that it will only be $150 per person per month. No appliances, and it took them a couple of days just to clean up the mess that was inside since it was empty for two years. To be honest, I worry about the safety of the house...the wiring, what if it catches fire?!!?

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 7:37pm
Oh my gosh!! Ack!! and Shudder!! There is a reason why I don't stay at hotels! The last time I stayed at one, I never took my flip flops off on the carpet, and used my own blanket that I put on top of the bed. My family thought I was insane. I'm a horrible germ-a-phobe, so the whole mattress thing really bothered me, blech! I do agree, that this is going to be a learning experience for him, and he has to learn on his own. He has always been independent, and a hard worker. I just want him to be safe without squashing his enthusiasm:)
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Registered: 04-13-2010
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 7:33pm
Yes, he is working, but I have had to help him out a couple of times because he was in between jobs. He is good at budgeting money, for his upcoming rent and knows how to put aside for groceries and such. Although, I worry that he won't eat as well as he did at home, but that I don't have much control over either. I have decided to purchase the detectors as a *gift*, and take them over. Ds has a pretty laid back personality, so he will take them in stride.
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Registered: 04-13-2010
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 7:30pm
Music..I understand about transportation! I had a 2003 Oldsmobile that had 186,000 miles on it, but was totaled while parked of all things, so I was forced to get another car. My car still ran perfectly fine. I really miss it! I love the Honda Civics!! would have loved a hybrid model. But dh wanted *american* so I ended up with a G6 instead. I so understand about the house too...we are in our 40's now, and most couples in our neighborhood, in starter homes, are younger with younger kids...people our age, have moved up so to speak into the more expensive homes..but we just can't see paying all of that money!
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Registered: 04-13-2010
Fri, 05-13-2011 - 7:25pm
Hi Rose..I totally agree with you regarding socio-economic status, and standards of living. I work with the homeless population, and many of them would give anything to have even the house that my ds and his friend are renting. However, cannot afford the rent. The house that ds is living in doesn't have any water currently because there is some type of water line broken, and some of the windows are broken out, mice issues, however, they are getting two months free rent because of some of the issues with the house. Dh and I are still in the same starter home/patio home that we have had since the children were small. We don't even have granite counter tops or a basement! It is 1200 sq feet for a family of five.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-12-2011 - 11:28pm

I agree w/ you on that Rose.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Thu, 05-12-2011 - 6:14pm

I'm not anti-building standards/codes or anything like that... but I guess I'm super-soured on the whole housing issue after what I've listened to at work for the last 4-5 months.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 05-12-2011 - 10:59am

I do understand your point that in third world countries people are living in huts, but this is the US and landlords are responsible to have buildings up to a certain standard that complies w/ the state building codes and they also need to have an occupancy permit.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-12-2011 - 8:06am

I would walk in with the smoke detectors and carbon monoxide detector(complete with batteries) and a smile on your face. Find the best place to put them and just do it in a calm, non-judgmental manner. Do not say anything negative.

If questioned, say you are entitled to sleep at night without worrying about your baby

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 05-11-2011 - 10:55pm

Oh Kimmy - YUCK!!

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Wed, 05-11-2011 - 9:56pm

OK, Rose don't remind me of the bed at the motel. LOL.

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