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| Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:53pm |
There has been an overload of testosterone in my house lately.
| Fri, 03-30-2007 - 9:53pm |
There has been an overload of testosterone in my house lately.
Hugs to you! And kudos to your DH for recognizing that his own father left a lot to be desired as a parent and making the effort to not be like him. The fact that your DS recognizes that parenting can be passed from generation to generation if a conscious effort isn't made to change things is, IMHO the first step at being a better father than his own is/was.
S has similar fears, he spent the first 17 years of his life with abusive or neglectful parents, he's often said he really didn't have parents until he came to us. He too, is afraid of parenthood in spite of C's wish to have a large family, coz he doesn't know how to be a good father. I've pretty much told him what I said above as well as to follow C's lead in parenting - she was raised in a warm, loving home with high expectations for the kids.
Don't know what else to tell you. The fact that DS knows what he DOESN'T want to do is a good first step. May he find a life partner who does.
Rose
DH was going back and forth with DS2 one day and just lost it-walked across the room and slapped him on the side of the head. It's the only time he has struck the boys since a few spankings when they were little. DS2 was 15ish.
I was somewhat freaked out but it was a one time thing and never happened again. DS2 was also freaked out and I do think it made a difference. He still argued, he was still loud, but it didnt ooze the disrespectful tone, KWIM?
So, I wouldnt worry unless this became a habit instead of an isolated incident