Chaos at my house!!

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Chaos at my house!!
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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 3:09pm

I don't normally post to this group, but I just can't stand it anymore, I have to talk to someone other than my husband about all that's going on at our house. I'm stressed to the limit. Here's what has happened in my house over the last week:

1. Discovered a leak in the bathroom wall that has been going on for some time and there's black mold everywhere. Ripped out all of the moldy stuff down to the studs. Now we're looking at replacing just about everything $$

2. My dog hit his head on something (we don't know what) almost two weeks ago and had a giant lump on his head. Took him to the vet, thinks looked ok - until 3 days later when he scratched it so hard that he punctured the skin badly in two places. That bled and oozed and now he's wearing one of those ecollars and I've been dragging him to the vet every couple of days.

3. We had bad storms last week which blew off my chimney and knocked down my fence. More $$.

4. Wednesday the air conditioning broke. More $$

5. Discovered my 12 year old daughter had deliberately cut up her arm with a pair of scissors. Talked to her counselor, talked through all of this, I think she's just looking for attention, so we're working on this one. (This happened before my son moved out)

6. My 18 year old son is 1 1/2 weeks from HS graduation, and I was called by the school that he has skipped one of his classes for the last month (it's part of a community service deal with student council, that's why they didn't know for awhile), missed some detentions for tardies, missed the additional detentions for that, used his cell phone for the third time in school - net result is that he was facing 2 days of suspension, 3 days of in school suspension. He comes home the day I get the phone call about all this, then sneaks out of the house before his Dad came home and I haven't seen him since. His english teacher said his grade in her class is so bad he won't graduate. The attendance office called me yesterday and said that he told her he had wrecked his MOTORCYCLE (!!!) and couldn't come to school. I am only communicating with him via email at this point and I'm at my wits end. I didn't yell at him or anything when all this happened before he left - he's making such BAD CHOICES!

7. Both kids and myself were really sick over the last week and a half, and I'm just now getting back to normal feeling-wise.

Honest, my husband and I are just average people, normal parents. There's no abuse going on, in fact if anything they are slightly spoiled suburban kids. We go to church, don't have money problems, belive in education, have good jobs. I feel ike there's a little black cloud over my head.

Thanks for letting me vent

Cathy in Tx

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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 5:03pm

Holy cow, girl!

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Fri, 05-11-2007 - 9:40pm
Hugs to you! If it helps any, can I say it WILL get better? This sounds like my January & February when my construction worker hubby (in Wisconsin) is laid off and the bathtub started leaking, the transmission on the washing machine gave out, the dryer burned up, my car died, and my dishwasher flooded the kitchen, leaking onto my oldest DS's bed in the basement - all in a matter of about a month's time. Thank goodness nothing has happened lately - knocking on wood really strenuously!! Hopefully your stretch of major stress will let up very soon. And that kid of yours - the 18 y/o - he's an adult, he gets to pay the consequences for this screw up. If he's mature enough to move into his own place (if only in his own mind) then he's mature enough to figure this one out. Mom needs a break! Can I send you some Calgon?? ;)
Rose
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 10:01am
So sorry that it is so tough right now!
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Sat, 05-12-2007 - 2:53pm
Thanks to all who responded for your support. I have an update on DS18 - he missed school Thursday and Friday, so he hasn't finished his in school suspension and those days are now considered unexcused absences. What on earth is he thinking? Is he thinking that since he won't graduate it doesn't matter? The whole situation just makes me sad, I had hoped for so much more for him. The school told me that he can't write his own excuses because they don't have something called an 18 year old Agreement with him. I guess he'll have to figure it out for himself. I sent him a couple of emails on Thursday, but he hasn't answered.