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|Wed, 10-08-2003 - 1:04pm|
I would like to ask another question, because I got such a wonderful advice to my previous post on this board.
Last night my husband and I had some disagreement regarding giving sd house chores to do. Right now all my sd does to help around the house is unloading the dishwasher once a week. (She is fourteen years old.) Even when my husband and I are busy cleaning the house, she just watches TV and does nothing, and my husband does not bother to ask her to do anything. I understand why my husband does not want to bother in this area. First, asking sd to help around the house takes a lot of work, because asking itself will create a tension, and then we will have to supervise to make sure that it is done properly. Second, my husband says that we should choose our battles. My sd has a lot of behavioral problem. (Most recent one was her sneaking out at night, as I posted two days ago.) So having her bad behavior under control is our priority. My husband argues that it is already a constant battle and he does not think we can successfully win the two battles, while my argument was that giving sd chores is part of parenting and parenting takes work, so we should deal with it.
Even though I said that to my husband, I am not sure if I was right. You know, if we decide to make sd do the chores, we may create more problems, which we could have avoided.
So what do you guys think? Do you think there is a way to combine these two issues and deal with them together---sd¡¯s behavioral problem and getting her more involved with house chores? Or do you think it is too much?
Thank you in advance.