For clarification

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 7:55am

In a couple of threads yesterday, I felt as if I looked like a person who would lock my kids up and throw away the key at the first sign of trouble.


I want to clarify that this is just not true.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 8:06am

I don't think any of us have the Cleaver household... they call it fiction for a reason.

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 8:22am

I think what you're doing with your nephew is amazing. I am facing having my niece come and live with us, as her mother is in yet more trouble...a few really bad choices escalated into major troubles with the law, and frankly, as much as I love her and worry after her welfare, I dread the commitment. I'll do it. I'll do my best, but I said it, I dread it. I'm sure I wouldn't dread it so much if this was one of my siblings rather than an in-law. Anyways, you are setting an example, for me at least, as to what we

 

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:04am

{{Julie}} Your posting here today in defense of your earlier posts on the other threads is the exact reason why I chose to delete my posts from that first thread. So much 'communication' is lost in a written post.


In a written post, we lose the body language, facial and hand expressions, eye contact and the like.


If anyone read my original post yesterday, my hope was that by sharing only a small smidgeon of the things we've gone through with my daughter, it would be conveyed as a way of reaching out and having more of a BTDT type of feel and show that sometimes we have to change the way in which we approach certain situations.


There have been many times when I posted elsewhere, on a closed private board,

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:05am
Rose, I just have to tell you how darned cute Missy is! I just want her to jump through my screen so I can squeeze her!!♥
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:10am
Julie I don't think anyone really thinks you'd lock your kids up for good.
Pam
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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:53am

Over the years, I have found there are times I just need to take a break from the board

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 9:56am

>>is there a way to make the 'Troubled Teen' board highlighted on this site? "you also might want to visit........"

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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 10:31am

"This started with him at 14 he will be 16 this Saturday.




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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 11:17am

Julie, I don't think anything you said yesterday or at any other time could reasonably be taken as implying you are an overly punitive parent! Your words and the words of others were twisted around into something they were never meant to be....and I see the same thing has happened here again already this morning.


You don't need to apologize or explain what you said. We're all doing our best here and offering advice with nothing but the best of intentions. (And I also admire you a lot for being there for your nephew! I don't think I'd have the guts or the patience to do that!)


EJ


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Wed, 02-20-2008 - 11:57am

Julie,

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