Coed Sleepover
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| Sat, 04-01-2006 - 6:42pm |
In one of those "how dumb do you think we are" moments, my DD14 asked "would you ever let me sleep over at a boy's house, when boys and girls are both there?" When I said "I don't think so", she said "nothing's going to happen, I mean the boys and girls will sleep in separate rooms, and his parents will be there". Ummmm, yeah, his parents will be there, but presumably in their own rooms, sleeping, or if it's like sleepovers in *my* house, trying to sleep and block out the kid noise. And it seems like too much temptation to have 8 or 10 boys and girls 14-15 late at night together.
She's at a boy friend's house right now, having a birthday party. She let me know that she didn't mean *this* party, but just in general, but in case I wanted to know, most of the other kids *were* sleeping over.
The kids from DD's school come from all over New York City, so it would certainly be easier on the parents if they *did* sleep over - now I have to drive into Manahttan at 9:30 at night to pick her up - but it's just not going to happen.
Sue

You know it would really depend on who the kids' parents are and how well I know them. I know a few parents who I would trust enough to watch the kids and ensure no funny business goes on.
Actually, you're right diamond, I can think of times when I might say 'yes'. Like if the kids were all going to a show or late movie and then out to eat, or a late dance at school, and if I did know the parents better. What was funny about this one was they were just "hanging out and things" and that seems too open-ended. Interestingly, at the party last night, none of the girls actually stayed. I think my DD was the only one brave enough to even ask her parents LOL.
Sue
You can't blame a girl for tyring....
This is a line I'm not willing to cross ... at this age, at least.
My 18dd recently stayed over at a friend's house following a party - there were both genders staying over. I wasn't concerned as A) dd is 18, B) I trust her to behave, C) she has a BF (he did not attend the party) and they are committed, and D) I knew all the kids there and they are all just fun loving, well behaved kids. I'd rather have her sleep over than risk driving home *possibly* under the influence or be in an accident by another driver under the influence.
However, that said, when she was 16 she asked and the answer was NO! I agree with your choice and commend you for sticking with it. There is just no reason why 14 y/o's need to be having sleepovers, no matter how careful the parents are.