This is completely off-topic, but Music's observation that

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This is completely off-topic, but Music's observation that
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Fri, 09-23-2011 - 6:10pm

<<>> kind of touched on a discussion Rae & I had, when she crashed here with her ear the other day.

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<<>>

That's how I feel.

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Well said, Sabrtooth.

You've obviously got your heart in the right place!
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I work w/ people from foreign countries who are used to living in multi generation households.

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Obviously your second ex should have gone to the park with a bag of candy instead of having children. Very sad indeed. My heart goes out for someone that sad. He is missing out on the best that life has to offer. Very sad is an understatement.
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Hi...I never thought about why I wanted kids; I just always knew that I did. Maybe part of it was because I loved my nieces and nephews so much. And maybe part of it was due to what I was lacking growing up...zero affection, attention, etc. In all fairness, I have to say that my dad was a good guy, but an alcoholic and old fashioned. The man made a living and the woman made the home. My mother died young, when I was a baby, long story short, grew up in a big blended family and stepmom believed blood was thicker than water and proved it every single day.

I spend a lot of time with my kids. My oldest is 22 and recently moved out into his own place. Well, not his *own*, he rents a 3 bedroom with 2 other guys. I think I see more of him than when he actually lived here.

My DD's are 16 and 18 and we are close and they are close.

I indeed look forward to grandkids, but not in the forseeable future.

And, p.s., when my sister was 18 she met and fell in love with a German man. she spent a summer over there with him, came home, packed it in and moved there. She loves it! They married after about 5 years of living together, and were married for 20 years, til an indiscretion on his part destroyed the marriage. No kids together, but he has a DD due to aforementioned indiscretion. Sigh.

 

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As a young girl, I just accepted the fact that I would marry one day and have kids but, as I got older, I understood

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sabrtooth wrote:

<<>>

That's how I feel.

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musiclover12 wrote:

I remember my 2nd ex used to go on & on about how he couldn't wait til the kids moved out.

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But even if the ILs are the interfering type, both people in the marriage have to make a conscious choice to put each other first. It shouldn't depend on whether the ILs/parents let them do so; they should just do it.

My MIL is a narcissist and would really love for DH to respond to her every whim. But he absolutely refuses to do that. She gets angry, but he always consults with me first.