I am interested to see responses to this because I do think you are between a rock and a hard place!
I would be inclined to fill the mom is on what was happening if the pattern continued(another 2-3 times?)
Say you suspect the kids have been at the mall at the same time and you feel uncomfortable because you know and respect how she feels but you dont know how to stop your son from going to public places
The responsibility lies with her IMHO. But keeping quiet seems like a co conspirator or something!
FWIW, I agree with the other mom. The sooner they start dating, the sooner they get serious and the sooner they get serious..........I dont see how any good can come out of 'promoting' early dating.
Thank you both for your quick responses. I do agree with both of you and I believe I will have another conversation with the mother.
But, ivdarian, I do monitor who my son is with in all situations 24/7. He is just 13 and I am still able to do that. If I stop him from seeing her, I am afraid It would
It doesn't matter whether you agree with the other mom or not. You can explain to your son what the mother said to you regarding her wishes for the kids not to see each other outside of school. Think how you would feel if another mom knowlingly went against your wishes for your ds. I would explain to my child that while I disagree with the other mom's decision, I need to respect her decision.
I've not read the other responses yet but when my boys were in middle school our dating rules were like the other mother's - they could have as many 'romances' as they wanted during the school day but we didn't allow 'dating' outside of that.
Since the other mom made the rules, it's up to her to enforce them..I would not make my son stay home...I would have him call the girl and make sure SHE tells her mother he will be at the mall also. If she keeps her DD home, so be it. If the girl lies to her mother...well then that is something she needs to address. The mall is a very public place where many kids gather, and I'm guessing it was in the daytime, but I certainly would not do the same if it involved meeting each other in a private setting.
Sure, 13 is too young for real dating, but walking the mall with a group is a fine and very common intro to dealing with the opposite sex.
Hi, I don't usually post here, but I sometimes read, and this caught my eye.
I have a 13 yo DD named Jay. She usually has a boyfriend too, but she and the boyfreind of the day pretty much only see each other at school events. Her current boyfriend is in 8th grade (she is in 7th) and they are on the ski team together. They spend
Yes, I agree that I need to teach my son to respect the wishes of the girls mother. I want to respect her wishes. But again, if I say he can go only if she says yes, (which I know in advance she will not) and in turn she says no....Am I
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I am interested to see responses to this because I do think you are between a rock and a hard place!
I would be inclined to fill the mom is on what was happening if the pattern continued(another 2-3 times?)
Say you suspect the kids have been at the mall at the same time and you feel uncomfortable because you know and respect how she feels but you dont know how to stop your son from going to public places
The responsibility lies with her IMHO. But keeping quiet seems like a co conspirator or something!
FWIW, I agree with the other mom. The sooner they start dating, the sooner they get serious and the sooner they get serious..........I dont see how any good can come out of 'promoting' early dating.
I agree with windrush.
Thank you both for your quick responses. I do agree with both of you and I believe I will have another conversation with the mother.
But, ivdarian, I do monitor who my son is with in all situations 24/7. He is just 13 and I am still able to do that. If I stop him from seeing her, I am afraid It would
You are definitely between a rock and a hard place.
I've not read the other responses yet but when my boys were in middle school our dating rules were like the other mother's - they could have as many 'romances' as they wanted during the school day but we didn't allow 'dating' outside of that.
Since the other mom made the rules, it's up to her to enforce them..I would not make my son stay home...I would have him call the girl and make sure SHE tells her mother he will be at the mall also. If she keeps her DD home, so be it. If the girl lies to her mother...well then that is something she needs to address. The mall is a very public place where many kids gather, and I'm guessing it was in the daytime, but I certainly would not do the same if it involved meeting each other in a private setting.
Sure, 13 is too young for real dating, but walking the mall with a group is a fine and very common intro to dealing with the opposite sex.
That's just how I feel.
Hi, I don't usually post here, but I sometimes read, and this caught my eye.
I have a 13 yo DD named Jay. She usually has a boyfriend too, but she and the boyfreind of the day pretty much only see each other at school events. Her current boyfriend is in 8th grade (she is in 7th) and they are on the ski team together. They spend
Yes, I agree that I need to teach my son to respect the wishes of the girls mother. I want to respect her wishes. But again, if I say he can go only if she says yes, (which I know in advance she will not) and in turn she says no....Am I
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