Could This be The Problem?

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Registered: 12-28-2005
Could This be The Problem?
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Thu, 03-30-2006 - 9:53am
Everyone here knows that I am having problems with my daughter and her current b/f. I also have had the concerns over my daughters seemingly "need" for a boyfriend. Something dawned on me during my prayer time and I think I know why. Her father whos is a very hard worker has at most times put his job ahead of the family. He has missed several games of my daughters because of work (work that he didn't have to do), she has made the comment many times that his work comes first. When he is on the phone talking to other people in the business he always says "you and I live for this" like that's all he lives for. Could she possibly be clinging to guys because she feels tha lack of attention from her dad, and if so is there a remedy at this stage in her life (17 1/2 and getting ready to graduate)Could she pick these guys because they have no ambition for their job or anything else and give all the attention to her. Could this be it?

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Registered: 05-12-2003
Fri, 03-31-2006 - 12:23pm
It wouldn't hurt to get Dad to talk to her and let her know he has confidence in her. I agree with previous posts about whether the involved/non-involved dad has an effect on a child. I think it does.... but it's different with each child, depending on their needs, ambitions and personality. Two of my kids are fine with the absent father and are quite successful. One, however, is hurt by it and it is causing a low self-esteem. Could this be your situation? Get Dad involved.
Deb
Debbie

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