crazy, dd whats to do cyber school!!!
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crazy, dd whats to do cyber school!!!
| Mon, 08-28-2006 - 11:00pm |
I am going crazy. school starts in 2 days and dd has been seriously stressing us and herself out and wants to go to cyber school. she is 15, going into the 10th grade and says she wants this badly. i know my daughter is a social butterfly and she needs to be w/her friends in school. it's crazy. she is insisting and is extremely upset. i know one of her major problems is her weight. she is 5'1" and weights 130 lbs. i told her she looks fine and she should not let this affect her. she is a 36 C so she is well proportioned. her thighs are a little thick but it's really not an issue but it is w/her. i can understand it but i need her in school w/other kids and in a structured inviornment. another problem she has and has had every year for the first day of school is her last name. she hates it. and says kids chuckel when her last name is read in the class room. this too shall pass. kids are older now and the teachers may not know how to pronounce it so she can correct them and give the pronuciation she wants. it's making me sick to my stomach. she is very insistant on this. she say she is tired of the drama in school, drugs and sex and alcohol. (she may be throwing this in the try and make a difference) say we are luckey she doesn't do any of that and we should be greatful and let her try this and be happy. anyone out there w/some good advice? sick over it.

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I hope that's your biggest worry tomorrow, LOL. Let us know how it goes!
At 16 years old 5'1" and 130, your dd's BMI is within the healthy weight range for both her age and her height. If she is having body image issues, then perhaps you need to get her into some counseling.
As for the cyberschooling issue. You may want to point out all the things she will miss out on if she's not in a B&M school. Dances, socials, clubs, activities, committees, sporting events, etc..
stacy
Suggestion..
Could you not make an appointment with the school and ask the Principal to make sure the teachers pronounce your last name properly? It's a simple request and one I would think that any reasonable educator would realise how important it is for a young person.
I know it is too late for the first day but it could help in the days to come.
How about signing your DD up at the YWCA/YMCA or similar low-cost fitness program she could do on her own? Although 130 lbs and 5ft 1 doesn't sound too heavy, she might feel better about herself if you did. My DS does 3times a week, early in the morning. They setup a program,just for him. It has done wonders for his self-estime.
You know, people don't always understand how difficult it can be for "well-endowed" young woman. It is difficult to find clothes that look good (especially if you are not tall).
Your friends get to wear all those "cute liitle outfits" that look terible on you.
You tend to look more "busty" and there is also the "unappropriate" remarks and attention you get. Put on top of that problems with her last name, it must be rough.
Give your DD a hug. Tell her,for me, it does get better
PS
Cyber school will not be a good idea of she wants to take science courses. You need the lab time.
Your poor DD! No wanted she didn't want your DH to listen in on your conversation! I imagine she felt guilty and horrible about being upset about your family name.
By this time in her school career, most everyone will know what her name is so maybe it won't get as much this year. I do like the suggestion of calling the school ahead of time to alert them of the pronunciation, or of the fact your DD feels self-conscious about it and has been teased in the past.
Anyway, I'd continue to blow off the cyber-school for a few more weeks. If she still is insistent, you'd have time to discuss it rationally and make a decision. I'll bet though, that she'll get involved and settled and things will be just fine!
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