Creative or Cruel?

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Creative or Cruel?
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 11:27am

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 11:35am
I would never have thought of it! I think it could be a good idea. However, it might backfire and make her think of volunteer work as a form of punishment. Kudos for him trying something new, but I might have opted for a more conventional form of punishment, like upping her curfew, or not letting her go out at all for awhile.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 11:56am
If you knew the family to be babysat, that's one thing.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 3:33pm
First of all I would worry that she might be a target putting her name & age in the newspaper--how does he know what kind of people might contact her? Second, as a parent, would you want someone babysitting your kid who was basically forced to be there? Yeah, I'm sure they would do a really good job!
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Registered: 03-09-2009
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 4:11pm

I'm not sure that I'd hire her (free labour, or not). Someone who misses curfew and needs to be punished (so, there was no good reason for missing curfew) doesn't sound responsible enough to care for my child.

Now, if it was free yard work on offer, then I'd totally aid in her punishment, LOL.

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 4:38pm

That's funny! YARDWORK! I did that "for" a neighbors boy once. The dad came to my door in the last house I lived in, it had a huge yard with lots of pinecones and a back lot that stood several feet high, and said his son had gotten community service hours as a result of stealing a bicycle I think. Would I like my yard to be the recipient of his FREE hours? OH HECK YES! And dad kept a close eye on him and made him do WAAAY more than I would have. Even made him do the back lot!

But babysitting with an ad like that? NO WAY. Just seeing the story has all kinds of alarms going off in my head. For both the girl and the kid(s).

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 7:13pm
Cruel? HECK NO!! Our kids always "worked off their crimes" when they messed up bad enough... most memorable was when my two oldest got caught shoplifting a carton of cigarettes when they were 17 and dad deemed a just punishment to be hauling cement blocks for the better part of a day. It was a job that needed to be done, and we were going to pay them to do it... but after their little shopping escapade, they "worked off" that carton of cigarettes at minimum wage... and no payment for their work either. Those kinds of consequences tend to stick with the kids a whole lot longer than the slap on the wrist "you been a bad boy" kind of things. Whole lot more effective than grounding them!
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Registered: 04-30-2000
Wed, 08-25-2010 - 8:48pm

I'm with some of the others on the advertising her name etc.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:34pm

as a parent, would you want someone babysitting your kid who was basically forced to be there?

That was my 1st thought the 1st time I saw this.

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Registered: 03-27-2005
Tue, 08-31-2010 - 7:33pm

I wouldn't want my child's babysitter to be looking at the job of caring for my young child as a punishment.