Curfew for an 18 year old?

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Curfew for an 18 year old?
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Sat, 10-09-2010 - 2:06pm

What's your oppinion on curfews for 18 year old daughters. Mine daughter goes out and even though I tell her 1:30am she struts in the house at 3am and even 5:30am a couple nights ago. I was scared to death the other night because she would not answer cell phone and didn't walk in until almost 6am. I feel like she might be drinking??? I'm starting to feel like I'm always over reacting or over analyzing her when it comes to curfew and her behavior

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 3:06pm

ADDED TO THE POST ABOVE,,,May I add I also pay for the pretty little 4g iphone she carries around as well...yes the phone she doesn't usually answer when I call. Well she doesn't answer it after a certain evening hour anyway.

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 5:18pm

Is she still in high school?

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 6:39pm

My DD turned 18 in March of her senior yr of high school.

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 7:15pm
Thank you for Your input I am so torn, maybe I am over reacting then cuz I really feel anything they are doing after 1:30am can't be good ya know. She did get her first job ever about a month ago and works maybe 3-4 days a week for 4-6 hours a day and is not starting college till second semester. So I should not be stressing on this curfew? I've talked to her about drinking and driving on numerous occasions and I can tell it goes in one ear out the other. Mine has said same as yours "I'm 18 I can do what I want" ummm no! Another thing is her car said 120 miles till empty yesterday and today she tells me she's empty and needs gas. Where the heck is she driving geez! Sick of funding her apparent joy riding. Also what if I'm not paranoid and she is drinking and driving?
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Registered: 04-13-2010
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 7:27pm

If she is already out of high school and 18, I would say there isn't much point in enforcing a curfew?? My oldest graduated from high school in May, and turned 18 this past summer, and until he turned 18 he respected the city curfew and ours as well. Now that he is 18, working full-time and going to college, he may live at home, but he is free to come and go as he chooses. He pays for his own insurance, phone, gas, and he worked over the summer and bought an old truck to get around in until he can afford something more to his liking. Usually on a Friday night he is out with friends and has discovered the 18 and over clubs, we leave our phone on in case something would happen, he knows he can always call us if he needs us, other than that he manages himself well, and normally comes home at 3 or 4 in the morning. We haven't had a problem with drinking with this son. So far he has been very respectful of our household.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Sun, 10-10-2010 - 2:02am

My dds DID have curfews, which evolved as they grew up, and which were based in common sense and respect for everyone involved.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 10-10-2010 - 10:19am

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 10-10-2010 - 10:48am

I honestly think that made her a more responsible person that being given everything and not having to contribute.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Sun, 10-10-2010 - 2:42pm

Rose, if you or your dh HAD, for some unknown reason, said "be home by 1:30" --even if your kids thought it was ridiculous-- would they have spit in your eye and showed up when they felt like it?

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 10-10-2010 - 3:10pm

Actually, we had arguements with two of our kids over curfew when they were younger... maybe 15 or 16, and they didn't like the consequences of that - no need to worry about a curfew for awhile because they weren't going anywhere without us!

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