curfews for kicking kids out
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curfews for kicking kids out
| Sat, 12-23-2006 - 1:29am |
When there are kids over on non school nights.... what time do you make everybody leave your house. I'm not talking about party per se... just seven or eight juniors in high school hanging out. DD 17 is always pushing the envelope trying to tell me everyone else's parents just go on to bed and don't care how long people stay. I'm sorry, but I can't go to bed when there are boys and girls over.... I kick everyone out but the girls that are spending the night at 12. Am I being unreasonable? If the movie isn't over I think they should have started it earlier.... I just can't leave that open ended knowing my DD would definately take advantage and people would stay till 2 or 3 in the morning. Don't these other kids have curfews? I hate the whole everyone else's parents do this or that thing! She makes out like she's the only one with rules..... Just frustrated here...And I feel like I have to have a hard and fast rule here because if you let them stay late just once... then it turns into..." well last time you let us" and it suddenly becomes the new norm and occasionally turns into all the time....Anybody else have this issue come up?

Well, you gotta give the girl credit for trying. ;) But if "everyone else's parents" and "nobody else's parents" were true, there'd be kids running the streets at 2 a.m. on a routine basis - and not just those few who's parents really don't care.
Our kids have a 10 p.m. curfew on school nights, and midnight on non-school nights that can not be changed without prior arrangements. Not only does that mean that my kids are in the house, but their friends are not. Right now I'm really lucky, my 15 y/o DD works most Saturday and Sunday mornings at 8, and she knows she has to be in bed shortly after 11 if she's going to be any good at work, so she usually beats her curfew by at least an hour. My DSs usually pushed that curfew to the ends of the world irregardless of what they had going on in the morning, and it was more of a headache with them.
Hang in there - it's a teenager's job to push the rules, and it's mom's job to hold fast. I know I got lucky with my DD... it's my reward for not strangling her brothers! LOL
Rose
You are not wrong - YOU decide on a realistic time for everyone to be out, and that's your decision. I am going to post something that you might want to read about teen's friends and boundaries because I have had a big problem too.
It's your house, and you have the right to set some rules - and don't let them step on you or manipulate you. I'm having a fight with my college daughter right now which isn't pleasant, but I've had it - and all because I've let them get away with things over the years.
Good luck!
You have got to get control of your life. Your MIL is not acting appropriately, and all I can say is that she either behaves or you don't let her over. I had a problem with my MIL for 22 years - she interfered, meddled, was rude and
This is one of the issues i'd like to have the kids parents phone numbers so i can talk to them and find out what their rules ae also. if my teen is supposed to be spending the night at her friends house i don't want to see her outside in the yad playing basket ball or anything and let alone see her out driving in a ar . i'd be steamed.
but i am behind you 100% the visitors neeed to have a curfew of when to be sent home. one of mine would just say oh well he was stired and just need ed that rest i'd tell my child to call his parents to come and get him so he can get him self some sleep at home and if he wn't leave i'd c cal the police. to many times peoplle get robbed for letting peoele soe
good luck wth that one
Robin