DADDIO.....I HAVE A QUESTION

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Registered: 07-28-2004
DADDIO.....I HAVE A QUESTION
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Tue, 12-12-2006 - 8:30am
I need an outside "dad" opinion on the topic of boys/sex. As I stated in my post before,my husband and I talk very candidly about the issue of boys and hormones and how at this stage they are looking for one thing. When you wrestle around with a boy, or he comes up and tickles you to watch you squirm he is really just hoping you'll squirm a boob into his hand- right? Do you think that we have overdone the whole thing by telling her that that is all boys want? My husband sais that no, truly, that is all that boys want. But, now Im worried that we might be a little unfair to the boys. What do you think?

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 7:43am
Along the same vein... last night I had a very long conversation with N about her relationship with T. He comes with quite a sexual history, and last night she tells me that he's a father, the baby was born in August and they gave the baby for adoption. Wise choice since he's going to be 16 next week, the girl is just 15 as of Sept. In any case, N is a little unsure, knowing that he's been sexually active, and will he stay with her if she doesn't choose to take their relationship in that direction? Apparently they talked about this yesterday, and he told her "If all I wanted from our relationship was sex I'd have been gone long ago, I can get that anywhere. Stop stressing!" N and I spent a lot of time talking about how she's set goals and standards for herself, and how she'd feel if she lowered those goals and standards. She's very much a realist and recognizes that at 15 the chances of still being with T 10 years from now are slim, and she's definitely going to wait to be sexually active until she's with someone that she feels that she's going to be with forever. I was amazed at some of the things she said... and the fact that she was so open in discussing their relationship.
Rose

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