Daughter acting up to stepdad

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Registered: 05-10-2011
Daughter acting up to stepdad
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Tue, 05-10-2011 - 7:52pm
My daughter and I have been taking karate classes together and we really enjoy it. Its a great workout.

But now she has started to act up around my hubby when I'm not here. Nothing too serious. Basically she told him he needs to watch out because she could kick his butt if she wanted to. He was just trying to make sure she's doing her chores.

Not sure how I should handle this. Any ideas.

Pixie

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 8:01pm

Hi and welcome to the board. We are a martial arts family - we all took tae kwon do when the boys were young and got our black belts. Our older ds went on to get a black belt in a different style, also. The first thing a good school will teach is discipline/respect for others (especially parents)/etc. Is your dd really being disrespectful and defiant to your dh? Or is it a matter of rolling her eyes and complaining and then doing her chores anyway? Some teen 'tude is to be expected and you have to choose your battles. If, however, you feel that your dd is really trying to use her training to disrespect/intimidate/etc. I'd recommend that you have her sensei talk to her. If that doesn't work then take her out of martial arts as she obviously isn't getting the real meaning.

Pam
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Registered: 05-10-2011
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 8:04pm
Thanks for the reply.

I'm not sure what happened. I wasn't there. My husband says it only happens when I'm out. And my daughter denies it.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 10:59pm

I never knew you did martial arts--and a black belt too, I'm very impressed.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 11:02pm

I do think this is an odd situation--have your DD & your DS been getting along before this, or has there always been tension?

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Registered: 05-10-2011
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 11:17pm
She's 14. They always got along well I think. This just started. DH is saying she made the comment a few times in last week or two.

She's admitting it mow and says she was just joking.

Now my DH is saying they should try a play fight and then forget about it.

Sounds like a stupid idea. But maybe it will work and settle this?
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Registered: 08-08-2009
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 11:21pm

Blended families are more challenging.

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Registered: 05-10-2011
Tue, 05-10-2011 - 11:26pm
She's 14. They always got along fine.
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 05-11-2011 - 10:29am

I think a play fight is ridiculous--he's a grown man, what is he going to do, knock her down?

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Wed, 05-11-2011 - 11:10am

<<>> VERY BAD IDEA.

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Wed, 05-11-2011 - 11:55am
Hi sabrtooth.

We are not that physical here and my husband doesn't work out. He is really skinny, nothing like yours.

We all had a long talk yesterday and all is well now. They did their play fight as well, all fun and game, no real hits and no one got hurt. The outcome was a bit shocking though. For me, anyway. Lol

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