I am having problems with my 14 y/o
I honestly think that you should focus less on the lying and start trying to figure out how to make things better for her in school.
I agree with musiclover that the first order of business is to get her some kind of help at school, such as accommodations, IEP, or 504 plan.
ITA with the previous posters, and had a question - are you sure she's in classes at the right level? Just the length of homework time and you needing to help has me wondering.
The lying is an avoidance behavior.
Everyone has made excellent points, and the only thing I would add, is that your dd needs a COMPLETE psychiatric workup, with a psychiatrist, not a psychologist.
Yes, she does have an IEP which has been in affect for at least 5-6 years. She has all the accomodations she can possibly have and we are going to meet again to see if there are any more we can add. She tells me and writes in her assignment notebook that she has different things to do for homework. I talked to the teacher today and she said that she should only be having to study for her tests. I am being told two different things by my daughter and the teacher.
She already has an IEP that has been in affect for 5-6 years. She is already getting a lot of modifications and we are going to meet again to discuss what else can be added. She does have a homework log that is initialled by the teacher so that I know what she has for homework. But her teacher is telling me that she isn't writing it down all the time. And we have already tried prioritizing her homework and doing the most important ones first. But she still gets points taken off if she doesn't have all of her homework done.
She has repeated 2 years. Once was because the teacher recommended and the other was because of LEAP testing. She had all of her points, but she failed that grade due to the LEAP. She is currently in 7th grade and should really be in 9th grade if she had never failed. The teachers have never said anything about her not being in the right grade level. ???
She has had an IEP in place for 5-6 years. Secondly, I don't know of a single school that would give out homework assignments on a weekly basis! I understand that it would give us more time to do the work, but I have never heard of a school doing this and our psychologist has never recommended it either.
The psychologist that we are seeing is extremely educated in the Asperger's syndrome. That is one of the reasons we are going to this person. He hasn't officially diagnosed her with asperger's, but he has already mentioned that he is pretty sure that she