daughter's breakup...why am I crying?

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daughter's breakup...why am I crying?
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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 11:41am

Hello all~so my daughter broke up with her boyfriend and I think I'm more of a mess than she is.

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:14pm

I've gotten attached to a couple of the boys' girlfriends over the years, too. Heck - one of them even lived with us for 4 months. In may my oldest broke up with his gf of over 2 years - she had spent the last 2 Thanksgivings with us. My youngest has been married and divorced and although she had her share of issues - she ws the mother of my first grandchild and I did grow fond of her. But the bottom line is that no matter how fond we may grow of a girlfriend or even a daughter in law - our first allegience is to our sons. You don't mention how old your dd is but if she's still a teen (which I'm assuming since this is PoTeens board) then there's a good chance she'll be 'in love' several more times before she finds 'Mr. Right'. Many times teenage romances are all about finding out what you do and don't like in a partner. Hang in there and try not to show your dd how upset you are!

Pam
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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:24pm

Thanks for the response.

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:41pm

I 'miss' some of my dd's x's too.

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:52pm

Pam,

You have such wisdom to share, I'm so glad you are still visiting the Teen board, it wouldn't be the same without you.

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 12:54pm

Okay, that song made me cry...but thanks for sharing...I hadn't heard it before.

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 1:14pm

I cry everytime I listen to it.

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Thu, 11-18-2010 - 1:38pm

Her brother (3 years younger) said that he was being mean (at times), so maybe it's a good that they part ways.

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Thu, 11-18-2010 - 6:06pm

If he was being mean to her, it probably is best.

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Fri, 11-19-2010 - 10:50am

I think it's sort of easy to get a little swept up in the romance of it too. My DH and I have a fantastic relationship but I admit, I had a little "pang" for the old days when I spent the day with DD and a boy who is actively courting her. He was so gosh darn sweet and I felt bad that DD wasn't really returning his affections (well, not "bad" as I'm not ready for her to be dating yet at 13 but bad as in, "poor kid is pulling out all the stops for someone who just seems him as a buddy.")