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| Sat, 10-21-2006 - 3:48am |
What do I do? I just saw my daughters boyfriend of 7 months kissing his ex-girlfriend while she was leaving his house. He just finished playing his football game and told my daughter he was going home to sleep. I know my dtr. is in love with this guy and I heard him say it to her too. My dtr. is 16 1/2 and he is 18. I am so disappointed , I thought this guy was great and now this, don't know what to do?

My recommendation is to stay out of it. Your DD won't thank you for bringing this up to her. She is only 16 so it's unlikely that they will stay together forever especially if he is cheating. She will find out as the ex will likely make sure she knows. This multi relationships seems to be very common these days. The kids also seem to accept it. Just be ready to deal with her pain - lots of kleenex & chocolate will be required.
Also, you may not have seen what you thought you saw. Sometimes we turn to those we have past relationship with for comfort. My Dad died when I was engaged and my ex b/f from my teens showed up at the funeral home. I walked straight into his arms & burst into tears. He stood there holding me feeling very uncomfortable while my fiance stood beside us. It was the first time I cried but seeing hime broke through the wall I had built to get through this terrible time. It wasn't anything against my DH because we have been married 31 yrs. Dee
Deb
This type of thing is devastating no matter what age or what stage of a relationship. My own experience is that she may not find out now but she'll find out eventually. I don't know your relationship with your dd but when she does find out (and she will...trust me), if you told her you saw something and suspected but didn't tell her, how do you think she will react? Will she be angry at you or understand?
How serious is this relationship? They've been together 7 months. Does your dd still socialize with other people or are she and her bf very very close? Also, is he going away to college next year? He's already 18 so wondering if he is off? Do you think they are sexually active? If they are and he is fooling around could she be at risk for an STD?
I know I'm just giving you more questions and no answers but you've got to figure this out depending on your relationship with your dd and how serious she is about this boy.