DD and boys- UPDATE

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DD and boys- UPDATE
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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 4:45pm

Well, we are cautiously optimistic that DD is coming to her senses regarding her loser BF. I do need to clarify one thing about him- I don't dislike the kid because he isn't an athlete/A student. My problem with him is his pot-smoking, cutting school, drinking and general lack of any positive direction whatsoever. In addition, he has ridiculed DD for participating in extracurriculars like sports and student government and makes fun of her for studying every evening. Other than playing guitar and liking a few of the same bands they have nothing in common.

Anyway, last week was a very busy one for DD with homecoming festivities all week. Thursday night she attended senior night for the girls varsity soccer team (DD plays on the JV team), then went to the powderpuff football game and bonfire. She got home a little late (DS18 was her ride and he stopped to talk to friends on their way out), so she wasn't home to receive BF's nightly call. When she did get home he called again and read her the riot act. We have call waiting and another friend of hers beeped in three times trying to get through. The third time DD decided to put BF on hold long enough to tell this friend she would call them back later. BF flew off the handle and got nasty with DD and for once she stood up for herself. She informed him that she wasn't going to tolerate being treated like that anymore and told him things weren't working out. She told him she needed to figure things out and needed to be single for a while in order to properly think things through. I think they have spoken once (briefly, last night) since Thursday.

DD had a great weekend- the homecoming football game with a HUGE pack of friends Friday night, movies and the mall with a group on Saturday then back to our house after with several kids, out for ice cream and a drive in the country with R on Sunday. She's had about 6 boys that she is friends with ask her out on dates since Friday, and she is a little shocked at the interest she is generating but flattered by all the attention. I think she is starting to see the advantages of being single.

I am still concerned that BF will talk her into a reconciliation. He is pretty smooth when he wants to be. I hope DD will stick to her guns and refuse him....crossing my fingers!

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 6:37pm

I'm very proud that your DD stood up for herself. Hopefully she'll realize that she has alot going for her.

Give her lots of hugs and keep her very busy so that she doesn't have time to miss him at all!

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Tue, 10-03-2006 - 8:45am
That's great news!
Pam