DD and Winter Formal
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DD and Winter Formal
| Thu, 02-01-2007 - 11:20am |
Last night at dinner, DD attempted to convince DH and I that since she has no 'romantic interest' in her date for winter formal, it is completely unncessary and unreasonable for us to meet him that evening. ???
She also feels it should be perfectly acceptable to us to just drop her off somewhere near the San Diego harbor, where she will meet up with her date and two other couples for dinner and that they would be perfectly fine finding their way into downtown San Diego where winter formal is actually taking place.
Yeah right ...
And all along, here I've been, thinking that she's a level headed young lady.

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My DS is 18 - so I don't have the control I once did - but when he was younger, and dating, I insisted on meeting the boys (I know, sounds weird, my son dates boys) and actually gave them the 3rd degree (I learned something from my dad when I was dating). Used to drive him nuts, but I knew where he was, who he was with, and that I had ensured as much of his safety as it was humanly possible for me to do.
Not that he didn't try - and got the same eye-rolling your DD got - but I totally support your position.
I agree that asking lots of questions is the way to go - and just pretending those eye rolls never happened. I think kids mostly *say* they hate that, but in the long run they know it's good parenting.
BTW, I think it's wonderful that you are comfortable and supportive about your son being gay. I'm sure he appreciates that!!
Rose
I think the last few months have sorta burnt the 'outrage' right out of my system!! I am in a constant state of "what now?", so it's hard for anything to surprise me, kwim?
At a certain point, it doesn't even matter what THEY are thinking. It becomes all about how WE are handling it. And you have to have a sense of humor because if you let every little thing make you crazy, well, you will go crazy. lol.
Good for you for being able to get handle on things so easily.
Yes ... I am starting to wonder what the 'real' plans for the evening are. I am sure, however, that they all DO plan to attend the dance (and not sneak off somewhere else) because the venue this year is very, very cool.
As of last night, girl B's father planned to chaperone the group at the dinner part of the evening. DD just about had a cornary when I suggested to DH that he go along and keep B's father company! LOLOL
The look on DD's face was priceless!
Oh gosh ... maybe your DD will just run out of ideas to make you crazy some day soon. Or, maybe she'll fine a way to channel that imaginative and creative energy in a more constructive way.
Yes, keeping your sense of humor intact is a grand idea ... along with a huge supply of chocolate chip cookies, lol. Although my current fav is peanut butter chocolate chip ... but I'm really thinking that it might be time for a batch of chewy molasses ...
I hope you have a peaceful weekend :-)
Edited 2/2/2007 11:41 am ET by hydrangea_blue
Thank you for your kind words - although he does get much support for me, and there was no issue when he "came out," his being gay is the least of our problems, being that he is an explosive child with anger management issues, ADHD, and possible mood disorder. I wish his being gay were the most severe of his problems. In fact, more than one boy in his high school has "come out" as a result of how comfortable he is with his homosexuality (and he's SERIOUSLY popular with the girls - so even the straight guys want to hang out with him - gets them closer to the females LOL).
In fact, both my sons (18 and 15) are gay, as is my nephew (the big joke in our family is that ALL the kids - 3 boys and 1 girl - like boys). Anyone that tells me that homosexuality is not genetically predisposed need only look at my family to contradict that.
Thanks again for your support. It does get difficult (there is a standard of "protocol" when your daughter dates boys or your son dates girls - but what position do you take when your son dates boys?). Since my son has always dated boys older than himself (both of them have, actually), I have always felt comfortable adopting the "mother of the girl" position and questioning the SH** out of the boys he dates.
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