DD out of control!

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DD out of control!
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Mon, 04-17-2006 - 4:41pm

Just when DH and I think we are in control of our 'fun-loving' teen, I found out we are not. We insist on knowing

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Registered: 09-07-2005
In reply to: karezz
Tue, 04-18-2006 - 11:59pm

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We buried my DH's stepson just yesterday. They stayed close all these years later. He was only a few years out of his teens..... but he began drinking and doing drugs at a very young age, even did it with his mother (so he told me).

He died while very drunk, rolled his vehicle and was ejected. The pickup landed on his upper body.

I worry constantly about my DS drinking and driving. I'm afraid it's just a matter of time.

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Registered: 02-15-2006
In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 8:13am
Cat_momma, I am so sorry about yours and DHs loss. That is so sad and tragic. My heart and prayers go out to you guys.
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Registered: 04-11-2006
In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 12:58pm

You wrote "There are some things you can write off as "normal teen behavior", but drugs and sex are not on that list. Sure, we all did it."

Maybe it's more normal behavior than you think.

By the way, flying in an airplane makes the chances of you DYING in a crash increase by 100% as opposed to not flying.
Does anyone think about that before they buy a ticket ?

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Registered: 02-15-2006
In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 1:50pm
I didn't say that it wasn't popular teen behavior, nor did I mean it wasn't "normal".. I meant that it shouldn't be "written off" as normal.
BTW-Air travel is a necessity for many people, whereas recreational drugs and sex are not a necessity, especially for a teen. And actually, there are alot of people who do consider the risk of flying and choose not to fly.
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In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 2:05pm
Truth? D@mn right I do.
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Registered: 08-17-2005
In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 2:20pm

I can't believe he is actually comparing air travel to recreational drugs - stop the insanity! LOL.

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Registered: 03-14-2006
In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 2:37pm
hello ladies, Im actually lurking on this board. I belong in the october expecting club but i just wanted to give some input. I am 20 years old, not that long out of high school. sex drugs and alcohol are NOT normal teen behaviors. they are the exception NOT the norm. I was raised and live in NYC there were plenty of opps. for me to get drugs and alcohol and sex. but do you know what stopped me? my parents they were busy people but took the time to disipline me. I hated it at the time but i am greatful for it now. i was never able to "hang out" i either was doing something productive , libary or school work or in the superviion of a known responsible adult. I thought it was a tight leash but now i an happy with their decisions. i am greatful and when i did have the opp to do something wrong i thought about why my parents were going through the trouble to supervise me. when the spoke to me about these topics they said "blame it on me". I was saying things like "my parents would kill me" the peer pressure ended there because everyone of the knew what it was to be hounded by our parents. In all I wanted to tell you don't lose faith because my parents did not I can proudly tell my children i have NEVER done a drug, or had sex outide of marriage. I gave into alcohol, my parents found out and they were so dissapointed in me it still feels bad. TIP: It hurts a child more for a parent to be disappointed and to lose their trust then to get punnished for a month. (still punnish them but take in mind it is not a good time to alienete them)
ps: i was married at 18 still am.


Edited 4/19/2006 2:38 pm ET by magdaelena
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Registered: 02-15-2006
In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 3:03pm
Yeah, and after I thought about it, on a plane your actually going somewhere, and on drugs your going nowhere-fast.
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In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 3:06pm
Thank you Magdaelena, what an encouragement you are. Good luck with your baby, what a blessing!
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In reply to: karezz
Wed, 04-19-2006 - 6:07pm

Thank you magdaelena - it's nice to get a 'real life' reminder that not every 14-17yo child is drinking/doing drugs/having sex.

Pam