DD talked to me!
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| Tue, 09-05-2006 - 8:12pm |
Last night my youngest DD was at a friends house, so I made a coffee and sat down in the kitchen. Eldest DD came in and started telling me ALL about school what her friends and her were doing that day etc etc..
We were laughing and she was telling me more and more. I thought that it might have been an ideal situation to bring up the 'sex issue' with her, but I decided not to. I figured it could wait a couple of weeks yet. I didn't want to ruin the moment for her. It has been such a long time coming!! It was a real pleasure just to hear her tell me all about their truth or dare games and silly antics.
Thanks all for your comments and suggestions. I took each one on board and I am so happy that I am not the only mother that a teen won't talk to. It seems all of my friends have fabulously close relationships with their DD's - I was starting to think there must have been something wrong with me!
Thanks for making me feel accepted and 'normal'
Liz
(in Melb, Aust)

That's wonderful! Isn't nice to see the "good side" of our kids once in a while? ;-)
Amelia
That is wonderful. I think you made the right choice about waiting to talk about anything serious. DD obviously needed (and did you) some time to just hang out.
I work with teens and young adults. I truly think that the more private teen is probably more common that the ones that tell mom everything. I think in the case of this board we have a higher % of teens that talk b/c their parents have taken the time to learn to listen to their kids and that's just what you did last night. Also, some kids are just wired to be private about things.
That's great, Liz. And please don't feel alone. Although it does seem that we have a large % of teens on this board who talk to their moms, I agree with Tobylady that is actually the exception to the rule. I have two teens right now, and they are like night and day when it comes to talking. One tells me almost too much and the other is more private. It's not that I have a better relationship with one over the other; like OP said, they are wired differently. As much as others might make me want to feel that I did something wrong, I refuse to feel that way.
I did notice with my dd14 that she is so private about the smallest issues, I have to be particularly sensitive about asking her anything when one of her brothers is present. So it may be that your dd opened up to you when she saw she could have you all to herself. My dd is more willing to talk when it's just the two of us.