DD trouble making social plans

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Registered: 01-29-2004
DD trouble making social plans
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Tue, 06-26-2007 - 8:02pm

I'm sitting here at 7:20 PM. My daughter got off work at 1 PM, then worked out at the gym, then went over to a girlfriend's house for a few hours. While there she texted me to let me know that 'all the girls' had gotten together last night to watch a movie, and she wasn't invited. That's not really true....she was invited, but she insists that's only because she called one of the girls. Now this evening, she had talked to several of her friends earlier around 4:30 or 5. Now she can't get in touch with ANY of them. They either don't pick up their phones, don't answer text messages, etc. My daughter feels like she has a black cloud over her head. I'm trying very hard to be objective about this, but sometimes I wonder if it is DD, or is this just the way of teenaged plans? Her bf is out putting in applications for jobs w/his best friend and she could go with them, but doesn't really want to. (That's a whole other story!) So here she sits, all ready to do something, but no plans. I just wonder if other girls in particular, but boys too, go through this often? My DD has had a very very rough two weeks with her bf, and her friends and so her self-esteem is low right now anyway. This doesn't help.

Thanks, Nancy

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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 10:17pm

Interesting that you mentioned your daughter watching movies and organizing her stuff. My DD has been doing quite a bit of that lately. It's good for obvious reasons (her room is clean) but I think that is her 'thinking' time and she's mulling life over while she works and organizes things. One thing I have said to my daughter often is that if there is ONE thing that all teenagers seem to have in common, it's that they are self-absorbed. I said it kindly, and she knew what I meant and agreed. Of course she didn't necessarily see herself that way...lol....but she is as much as anyone else.

Nancy

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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 10:21pm

I agree. My DD is always so certain that she is the ONLY being left out, or whatever, but I think often other girls (and boys too) are feeling that way too. She just doesn't know about it. And because this is the summer between senior year and the beginning of college, I think a lot of the kids are running the gamut of emotions, knowing that they are leaving soon.

Nancy

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