dd wants to break up w/bf/ she's board

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dd wants to break up w/bf/ she's board
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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 1:34pm
Wanted to know if i should get involved in this w/advise to her...dd age 16 has been dating this 18 yr old for 6 mths. he picks her up, they go to his house to watch movies or play videos...they stay at our house to watch tv or play videos....he goes to collage and works, she goes to hs and works...they see eachother about 3xs a week....she now has been saying she may break up w/him cuz she's "board"...i told her if she is interested in another person...and i know who he is...forget it cuz this other kid is trouble...into selling and doing drugs.
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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 1:50pm
I'd stay out of it - it's OK to offer a general opinion IF ASKED.
Pam
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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 2:49pm
I agree with Pam.
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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 3:20pm
we did not want her dating to begin with but there comes a time where ok,...i don't want her sneaking so age 16 was it. limited dating....i don't want her tied down to one person, i want her having fun w/friends .... my fear is that she will hang w/the wrong people.....it's a safe haven for her to see this kid she is w/now. i'm just afraid she will start hanging w/certain kids and get involved in smoking and other stuff and once they start, it's hard to get them away from it....my ds did and i'm still having an issue w/him.
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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 3:28pm

Do not get involved. Inevitably, if your dd is anything like my two, she will come to you if she wants to talk about it. BUT DO NOT GET INVOLVED IN ANY WAY. Do not speak about this with the BF - if he calls you, you must delfect his inquiries and tell him it's between him and dd only. Make no apologies for dd's decision either - she will be the only who will have to live with her decision. She may regret it later, but that's how she will learn to value a relationship with somone worthwhile.


As far as the other boy goes, if she's under 18, you do have a right to tell her she's not allowed to hang with him if he's no good. Hang in there - best of luck. Both of my dds' regretted a break up afterwards but they both moved on nicely.

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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 3:39pm

I understand how you feel, but.....

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Tue, 11-06-2007 - 4:35pm

"And dating isn't what it was when I was young!