Today my dd whose 13
Gal_power, I thought about you a few times earlier today.
I'd forgotten about the shirt Kimmy... seems like so long ago! ;)
Our little result of "it all started with a kiss" is sleeping in his little pack 'n play right next to me, and I have to tell you, even though he came about 3 years too early (both parents are 20 y/o college students), he's the best blessing I've ever gotten.
PS: I think it's always good to have the other parents involved also.
Uh, no mom, they won't come to you when they want to do more.
It's great that she is talking to you so openly, but I would ask her why she thinks she wants to do this. She may have pressure from her friends or having a BF could be a status symbol. Sometimes when they ask for permission to do something, they're really asking you to tell them no because they're not ready.
I do think that she is too young to start kissing.
I think it's nice that they came to you but I guess I wonder why your dd even HAS a boyfriend at the age of 13. My boys had jr. high 'crushes' but as we didn't allow them to date at such a young age they were all confined to school. My older ds did hold his 'GF's' hand on the school bus on a dare one day and that was the extent of their physical romance. I think instead of your 13 yo kissing boys she should be spending time with her girlfriends, involved with hobbies, etc. I think any time spent with boys should be in a large, well chaperoned group. I know where there's a will there's a way but if your dd only sees the boy at school and the occasional public place with lots of other kids and trusted adults nearby they won't have a lot of time to kiss. Once they start serious kissing it's only a matter of time before they want to go further and IMO 13-14 is very young to handle the emotional aspects of a sexual relationship.