DD18 is gone - off to college!

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DD18 is gone - off to college!
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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 10:33am

Well, dd finally is off at college - we dropped her off yesterday. It only took about 3 hours to totally set up and unpack her room. We met her dorm mates and they all seem nice (she's in a quad). One in particular was very friendly and answered a barrage of questions. I held it together and didn't cry when leaving dd, because I know if I started she would too. I got to the parking garage and then I fell apart. DD16 hugged me and patted my back. H and exH stood there like dolts - they just didn't get it. ExH thought I was crying because I was worried about dd - not true. I know that dd will be fine and do well, I know she's happy and I'm happy for her. I was crying cuz she's my little buddy, my first born, my love and I will miss her. That's all. I feel like she's all grown up now and there's that motherly need to be needed and I feel it less and less and on the one hand that makes me very relieved and happy, but it also makes me a little sad.

Anyway, she called me last night at around 11 and of course, listed a few things she had forgotten and that I need to send her. She also told me she was a little nervous about sleeping there her first night. And she told me she made a friend and they went to the store together. She's going to be fine and so will I. DD16 is excited about painting her sister's room and making it her own.

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:16am

What a big step for your DD!! As I posted a few days ago, I will be in the same spot whenn my DD15 is ready to go to college - I'll be so excited for her, and confident that she'll be fine, but sad to "lose" a good buddy. I think my DH will "get it" though. He's more "off" when she goes away for more than one night than I am - he likes it when we're all together.

(((HUGS))) to all of you!!

Sue

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 11:18am

{{{{{HUGS to you today h&R!}}} I know a little bit how you feel ... DD has been gone on a school trip since Thursday and it feels a little like I've lost an arm or something. It just doesn't feel right around here ... much too quiet.

Your DD sounds like a lovely young lady and I know you are as thrilled for her in this new adventure as you are knowing that you will miss her. It also sounds like the two of you share a very special bond and that's something that won't be easily broken.

I'm sure she will check-in often -- thank goodness for e-mail! So much quicker than letters!

Hang in there! Christmas will be here before you know it and she'll likely bring home some wonderful new recipes for Christmas goodies and desserts.

Julie

 

 

 

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 12:47pm

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Congratulations on a job well done! After all, that is what we're working towards all these years - raising confident, happy, independent adults. Many fail in the process. But you DID it!

Still, I know how sad you must feel. I remember how my mom cried when I left home (she didn't do it in front of me, but ya know my sister had to tell me). One of my favorite shows of all time is Gilmore Girls, and I know you're in Connecticut. Have you seen the episode where she helps dd move into her Yale dorm? It's really funny. DD winds up telling mom, "You should have made me hate you" because she misses mom so much. I'm sure you and dd will be fine, and now you'll treasure the time together all the more.

A few years ago a friend told me that she'd had a difficult teenage relationship with her dd - years of not "wanting to be seen with the parents", etc. Still, after dd went away to college and came back for Christmas break, she actually curled up in bed with her parents! Suddenly mom and dad weren't so horrible after all.

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Mon, 10-02-2006 - 2:53pm

>>>Gilmore Girls, and I know you're in Connecticut. Have you seen the episode where she helps dd move into her Yale dorm? It's really funny. DD winds up telling mom, "You should have made me hate you" because she misses mom so much.>>>

Haha - I was thinking of that very episode last night on the drive home! How funny! Even yesterday when we were alone in the dorm, we were kind of looking around at the set up and we were both looking out the window, which overlooked the back of a building near a service entrance and at the same time we both said, "And the view is so lovely" - then laughed. Not that I would want to be or am like Lorelei, but we do have a certain closeness to our relationship that is something like Lorelei and Rory's. We have a definitive mother/daughter line, whereas on the show there are certain times when I think the mother shares too much with her daughter and vice versa. OTOH, there are things that my dds' share with me that I NEVER would have shared with my mother and I'm happy that they feel comfortable doing so.

Anyway, I love that show. And now I have dd18 hooked on Greys Anatomy too!