DD's Relationship

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Registered: 08-27-2003
DD's Relationship
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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 1:10pm
I have a 16 yr old dd who is seeing a 18 yr old boy. They have been together (broken up a couple of times) since May of this year. DD's boyfriend is a nice boy and treats her well. He'll be going off to college in June. The physical part of their relationship has been the normal stuff (holding hands, hugging, kissing) from what she tells me. DD and I have a very open relationship. Lately she's been asking me questions, like, "After you're with a boy for so long, do they expect more than the holding hands, hugging, kissing?" and "Does the first time hurt?" Or telling me things like "Danny tried french kissing me today but it really grosses me out and I pulled away from him." or "Danny was really affectionate today, he hugged me alot." I asked dd if Danny was pressuring her for sex and she said no. She said that he respects her feelings and would never pressure her into anything that she didn't want to do. I'm getting the feeling that they are considering taking the next step in this relationship. Am I right in feeling this way or do you think I'm overreacting?
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Registered: 03-14-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 1:46pm

Your daughter telling you these details is probably her way of saying she is feeling pressured without making Danny seem like a bad guy.

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Registered: 08-27-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 5:05pm
OK, other than be there for her....what else do I do? I've had "the talk" with her and I've also told her that no one should pressure her into doing something that she is not ready for. I mean, should I speak to bf? He and I actually on good terms.
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Registered: 03-14-2003
Wed, 11-12-2003 - 5:27pm

If you think it might help the situation, you might want to consider doing that.