dd's second question

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Registered: 07-21-2006
dd's second question
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Thu, 07-12-2007 - 12:22pm

Ok, this is my dd's second question; once again, verbatim:

i dated this guy named jake last year for about hmmm 6/7 months and at the end of our relationship i found out he had cheated on me with this girl named mika.
i wouldnt talk to him for about 5 months.
we have just started talking a couple weeks ago and then started dating.
well last week i saw that he had sent this girl something flirting around calling her babe and making sex jokes with her.
which really upset me.
do yall call this cheating.
i broke up with him after that.
i was heartbroken he is one of the only guys i have every really cared for and saw myself with in the future.
should i take him back.
all of his freinds and some of my freinds think so.
whats your input.

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Registered: 12-14-2006
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 9:29pm

Dear daughter of willow54sunset - I'm sorry you are feeling so sad about this boy, but it sounds like he's not ready for the kind of serious relationship you want to have. I don't think flirty messages are cheating, but I do think it shows his level of immaturity. You say he's one of the only boys you really cared for and someone you could see a future with. I"m sure your mom has already said this, but at 15 it's unlikely that you've met your future husband. I mean, I can only think of two women I know who are married to men they started dating in High School - most adults met their serious partners when they were a little older. High School is a good time to get to know a lot of people, to learn what kind of boy/man is a good match for you, to learn what kind of girl/woman you are growing into, and to grow....emotionally, physically, socially. I know you feel very hurt and sad right now, and that's fine, but talk to your friends and parents to help keep it in perspective a little.

(((HUGS)))

Sue (mom to Leah, who just turned 16)

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Fri, 07-13-2007 - 9:58am

Thanks, Sue, for your gentle message to my dd! I really, really appreciate it!!

Amelia