desperate parent of depressed teen

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desperate parent of depressed teen
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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 10:03am
I have a teenage daughter who suffers from depression and I am looking for a message board or group where I can talk to other parents about everyday situations. Anyone know of a good support board for parents

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 10:43am

There is a group of boards here on kids health, including mental issues, and a board in the Total health group on coping with depression.

Is your dd on meds and in counseling? Are YOU in counseling to help you learn how to parent her? Those things are really what will help you.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 10:57am

Thanks for the help. I will check out the boards you have suggested.



Yes my daughter is in counseling and taking meds. She sees her counselor every two weeks and we get to see her sometimes too. But still there are so many unanswered questions that pop up every day - just little things. Like last night. My daughter has complained about not beeing able to

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 12:13pm

Hi, I hope you get a chance to check out the sites that Sabrtooth suggested.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 12:35pm

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Were you thinking melatonin? I know that lots of people, including children with sleep disorders, take it to help them get to sleep. It's supposed to be both safe and effective.

BTW, I agree with you about reading versus surfing the net or watching tv. I think that there was a study done or something, and it was found that something about the tv/computer screen actually being stimulating rather than relaxing.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 12:43pm

Yes, melatonin, thanks.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 12:50pm

Welll...I certainly don't know your DD but my experience has been that if the computer is available they will be on it. There have also been "studies" about sleep issues (falling asleep, staying asleep), sorry I can't cite them but I've done some research because of my own chronic sleep issues, and I'm wondering what other electronics she might have in her room? I ask because of reading about some people being so sensitive to blinking lights that they don't conciously realise are bothering their sleep patterns. I don't think that made sense. I mean like a digital clock that has a backlight or dim glow, but the dots between the hour and minutes blink so you can tell it's working, or a stereo that although it's "off" still has a little blue (or whatever) light that is on because it's plugged in. Car lights driving by a window shade thats not a blackout curtain. Computers usually have lights that will indicate they are powered even when not "on". I see a green light on my computer speakers right now indicating they are on. I know it sounds like an extremely simplistic "fix" and probably is but you might lay where she does in the dark and look around her room for any little light and make sure it's covered if you don't want to unplug stuff. She will still hear her alarm with a towel over it but not be able to look at the time, move it out of arms reach.



Have her find a good ( or maybe boring) book and supply her with a journal. She can write anything she needs to say without getting the stimulation of returned input. I sincerely doubt she is talking to her friend or friends about her depression every night all night. Those friends would soon be tired of constant and continued "poor me".



If you read some of the other posts here, you will see alot of problems with the

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 12:53pm

it is good to hear from somone who has insomnia at times. My daughter's sleep problems came with the depression and my hubby is very concerned about drugs. He is already unhappy that she is on Prozac. His point is that there have been no studies to see what effect these drugs have on kids and he would rather see her off them then on but he realizes she needs them right now.



I will stop at our drugstore and pick up some of the melatonin and see if it helps her . Can't hurt to try. She is in school right now with only one hour of sleep. I am worried about her. After school she has tennis practice. I know I could not function on 1 hour of sleep. It is not like this all the time but she has days where she hardly sleeps. Guess I will have to talk to the counselor about the computer. If it is not necessary I will start turning it off. She still has her phone if she needs to talk. Thanks for all the help and insights. Made my day a bit easier. Now I just hope she makes it through the day .

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 1:40pm

Glad I could help.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 1:54pm

How old is DD? Before I say anything else, Please don't forget in your concern to ask Doc and Pharmacist if melatonin has any known reaction to Prozac. I, ahem, am not exactly a health concious person, but I keep seeing references to "natural" supplements and possible interactions with other drugs.



I am honestly NOT trying to pick a fight! I just feel I really have to say something about this post, because of the phone comment. Just how depressed is your DD? Is she severely at risk for suicide? Would she be better with 24hr supervision? You said she still has her phone if she needs to talk should you remove the computer. Talk to WHO in the middle of the night? Other school students? I'm sorry if you disagree, but unless she is calling a 24hr hotline or her counselor, this is NOT ok!



How do you KNOW she only had 1 hour of sleep? Is this her estimate? Does she anxiously bounce out of bed in the AM or is she difficult to get up for school? I would seriously make her sleep with ME for a week- no computer, no phone, and find out what is really going on with this sleep thing. Unless she is so severely depressed you believe she's at risk, then I would suggest she needs way more interaction with the "professionals" than a pill and twice a month counseling.



I'm saying this from experience, not from an awful heart.

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Wed, 09-29-2010 - 2:10pm
Geez, I know I'm the slowest 3 finger typer in the world now! I was concerned about the drug reaction too. And I thought I was getting faster :)

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