Did I do the right thing???

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Registered: 04-20-2006
Did I do the right thing???
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Thu, 04-20-2006 - 2:19am
Hi all, i'm a mom of three girls, 10, 13 and 16. My 16 year old has had the same boyfriend for almost a year. We just now told her he isn't alowed over here anymore and am wondering if i'm doing the right thing.
Let me start with why we don't like him. They fight ALL the time, it effects her alot and the whole family because of the moods she gets in when they are fighting, when they fight he has said some terrible things to her that she has told me about, the worst one being, she is so low, she is like scum on the bottom of his shoe. He has broken up with her at least 4 times and then wants her back and she just forgives him like it was nothing. She does tell me she says mean things to him also but he always starts the mean comments. I pick her up from high school and I actually saw him get in her face when they were fighting. His family has major issues, one being the brother of the boyfriend molesting the sister who is 14, the brother being 17. My daughter was told this by the mother and NOT to tell us. She has also told my daughter things that she shouldn't be talking about with her, she talks about my husband and I and how we should watch our finances, and scoffed at the car my husband bought. She uses the f word around her, but NOT her son, she told my daughter how she is on prozac and her husband dosn't know. Just things she shouldn't tell my 16 year old. The son has adhd and that is always the excuse for all he does. I could go on and on, but I just wanted to get your opinions on this.
Of course my daughter is very upset at this. Please give me your thoughts if I did the right thing, thanks so much!!! Marla

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Registered: 04-20-2006
Fri, 04-21-2006 - 11:04am
Thank you so much for your words and the links. I feel I am doing the right thing for my DD. I believe she is being verbally abused and it has to stop now!!! Now I just have to make her see it. God be with me!!!!

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