Digital grounding?

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Digital grounding?
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:38am

Not so long ago, teenagers in trouble got grounded. They lost their evenings out, maybe the keys to the family car. But lately the art of family discipline has begun to reflect our digital age.

Now parents seize cellphones, shut down Facebook pages, pull the plug on PlayStation.

Parents use 'digital' grounding as a 21st century disciplinary tool-

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 9:57am

My DS's groundings are always "digital" or a loss of screen time. For my DS, I see spending time outdoors or with other kids as almost therapeutic (he has issues WRT socializing) so I wouldn't limit those unless the specific situation made it logical to do so. And he doesn't drive yet, so taking keys away is not an option.

Basically, when I punish, unless I can think of a consequence that better fits the "crime", then I try to make it "hurt". The loss of screen time, for my kid, is what hurts the most.

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Registered: 06-27-2006
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 10:13am
My teens groundings are always digital. Loss of their phone, ipod, tv. That seems to get their attention the best.

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Registered: 03-27-2005
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 10:18am

The only time I would use digital grounding is if he directly violates our rules regarding said digital device.

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Registered: 03-18-2003
Wed, 09-08-2010 - 2:27pm
I don't I have ever used a digital grounding; the crime would have to be directly linked to the electonic in question. The kids

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Thu, 09-09-2010 - 3:29pm

I've never heard of the term digital grounding, but when dd told me she didn't have homework so that she could hop on Facebook, and then later confessed she DID have homework,("I really needed to talk to

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Fri, 09-10-2010 - 7:54am
I'm a big believer in making the punishment fit the crime and in natural consequences... digital grounding because he came in late makes no sense to me... saying you can't go out because you came in late does. I can't think of a single time that I took the cell phone away, although that seems to be the thing that a lot of parents go for first. I have, however, taken the car away, taken screen time away (when the offense was related to the screen), and taken away the privilege of being allowed to go out.