Dilema, Should I give in!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2003
Dilema, Should I give in!
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Thu, 10-23-2003 - 6:30pm
Hello,

This is my first time requesting support, but my third teenage boy. Here is the situation. My son is 17. He agreed to come on a family weekend with us to his brothers school, Texas Tech. The weekend includes a football game and some other activities. I was looking forward to this family weekend and he agreed two week ago to go. Well, of course something has come up. His best friends parents are getting divorced and his best friend is moving to Columbia on November 3rd. My son wants to stay home that weekend, so he can spend his best friends last weekend with him. My emotions initally took over and I told him he had to come with us. He was very upset and I now have a small hole in my wall. Anyway, after we both calmed down I asked him to talk with his friend and see if they could come up with another solution and that I would think about the situation as well. I do feel for his situation. Am I being selfish by making him come. His big brother said it is o.k. if he doesn't and that he understands.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-14-2003
Thu, 10-23-2003 - 7:41pm

If your son is trustworthy, why not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 10-24-2003 - 1:54pm
I agree with twoki. I think it's way more important to your son to be able to spend whatever time he can with is best friend than it is to go to his brother's campus. He won't be able to re-create this time with his friend, but he is going to see his brother and have other times with his family one day. So yes, get him to patch the hole in the wall and let him stay.