disrespect

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Registered: 05-14-2006
disrespect
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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 2:10pm
Hi,
I haven't posted here about my daughter but I will now. We have had problems with her in the past and gotten her counseling. She was cutting. I thought things were pretty good for her lately. She has a boyfriend now. She is 16. He is her first boyfriend. I don't have a problem with this. However, she hangs out with him all the time. I wouldn't have a problem with this either, however, since she has been hanging out with him she has been disrespecting me a lot. She calls me loser, she calls me other things to, but in a joking manner. I tell her not to and she stops. But, she just got a job and so I was going to let her stop her school and do a computer school thing, through the school district to graduate so she can work. Anyway, today she calls me up telling me the principal won't sign the paper to release her to the computer school. She tells me I need to come talk to her. I tell her I can't, I have 3 little kids with me and 2 of them are sick. She gets mad at me because I won't come and get her right then. I told her that I would pick her up at 1:40 when she gets out of school. I told her to have the principal call me and she told me she wouldn't unless I came and got her right then. Then she hung up on me! I called the school back and she had left the office so I asked them to tell the principal to call me to discuss signing the paper. I am mad at the school for not signing the paper, but I am ticked at dd for disrespect.
Dawn
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: maerheanne
Wed, 09-19-2007 - 9:00pm

Teens arent know for patience or planning ahead. I'm sure she expected you to drop everything and come to her side and that simply wasn't possible

At her age, I imagine they need to have your verbal, likely written, permission to take this kind of a step. They don't want kids saying something is okay when they havent even run it by mom or dad. And phone call are not reliable as teens can impersonate parents on their cells just fine

I hope it works out for you.

And it sounds like you have something to hold over her right now. She wants your support in this so she best be watching her attitude, KWIM? She gets nasty, leave the room-lock yourself in the bathroom if necessary. You dont need to listen to insults, joking or not.