Disrespect

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Registered: 03-01-2007
Disrespect
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 3:59pm

Hi Ladies:
I am back for some of your sage advice!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2004
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:25pm

I'd rat her out.. definitely.


It's one thing for our kids to occasionally disrespect us - it's all part of the raising-a-teen gig. But when some other kid - talks to YOU personally on the phone - / -hears you say NO -/ and disregards that NO.... that's over the top and needs to be addressed.


This is a hot button of mine; teenagers who use my home as the "excuse" while prancing off to do something else. I don't tolerate being played the chump. In middle school DD had a friend who did this-stayed at DD's birthday party long enough to make an appearance, then took off to a boys house for an evening of naked swimming. DD didn't care - didn't really like the girl much anyway, but you bet I called the parents.


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Registered: 02-14-2007
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:26pm

I would definitely speak to the other girl's parents so they know what happened. I also would not allow my DD to have any sleepovers (at my house or elsewhere) for some period of time. I don't even know why you let the girl hang out at your house today, because I would have made her go home first thing in the morning (especially with you not being home!). And FWIW, I think midnight is kind of a late curfew for a 16 y.o.


EJ


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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 4:57pm

I personally would not call the BFF's parents.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2007
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 6:11pm

I personally would not call the BFF's parents.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-1999
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 7:44pm

I probably wouldn't rat out bff either... this is coming from the standpoint of having seen what emotionally/mentally abusive parenting can do to a kid, and how she might have to pay way above and beyond what is reasonable for this offense.

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Registered: 04-30-2000
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 8:01pm

I would be finding out when she got there.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 8:02pm

I'd definitely mention it to the other parents and ban sleep overs for awhile.

Pam
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Community Leader
Registered: 04-30-2000
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 8:12pm

I don't get parents who let their kids run and just come home by curfew if then any night of the week...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 10:14pm

Since you *don't* know her parents, I would not rat her out.

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Registered: 01-22-2008
In reply to: mom2onegrl
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 11:03pm

I've been in similar situations with my 15 y/o DD and friends.

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