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|Thu, 04-17-2003 - 10:12am|
Now let's add a twist to this...he also has extremely, extremely low self-esteem! If we get on him about anything, then he argues and cops an attitude - "he knows more than we do - mom and dad are idiots". If we praise him, he refuses to believe it and goes on and on about how terrible he is, how stupid he is, etc.
How about another twist...in school, he does the least amount of work possible and gets A's, but not high A's. And he is cool with that. However, if he does not perform absolutely perfect in basketball or baseball, then he goes ballistic about how awful an athlete he is. When we try to explain to him that noone is perfect and to keep trying hard, he gets mad at us. He says he will never settle for anything less than perfect! He focuses on his mistakes saying this is how he will learn to not repeat the mistakes. However it is all so negative and that worries me to no end.
He is never happy or satisfied with anything or anyone. I want my smiling, happy boy back! I am so upset and don't know which way to turn. He has flat out refused any type of counseling - and I mean vehemently refused!
Please help. I would love suggestions on any part of this complicated mess. Thanks.