Do all Dads and newly turned 18 yr.olds have this argument?

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Do all Dads and newly turned 18 yr.olds have this argument?
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Thu, 05-26-2011 - 7:04am

DS just turned 18.

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Thanks for the understanding answer.

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Registered: 11-28-1999

I told my 15 yr old son that as of this summer I was not going to be doing his laundry any more--why should I when he is going to have much more free time than me?

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I have NEVER bought the "kids don't need to work because they work hard in school" line.

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I am assuming he just graduated high school?

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ashmama wrote:

Your last few sentences say it all. He needs to get a job--no more money from you--and a license. It's discomfort, not comfort, that forces a person (of any age) to make a transition.

Wow, ABSOLUTELY!!!

It's a little late now to say this, but I think allowing a teen to veg out on the couch all weekend and all summer "because they work hard in school" ends up hindering their maturing process.

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Your last few sentences say it all. He needs to get a job--no more money from you--and a license. It's discomfort, not comfort, that forces a person (of any age) to make a transition.

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I have to admit that when I was 18 I was an impossible jerk.

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All I can tell you is ds18 was a bear to live with last summer (he turned 18 in Aug) when he felt he'd graduated HS, was going to be on his own in college, and thus should be able to be out til all hours (dh and I wake up at 5:30 for work; ds would get in around 1 or 2am). He has worked since age 15; just switched jobs a few weeks ago. What I can say is after a year of college under his belt (and gf 300 miles away for the summer; she goes to his U but for him it's local, albeit he stays at school), he's much more the way he was a few years back and is back to being fun to be with most of the time (still has issues with me being 'overprotective' and his dad being 'weird'), joining in family conversations during meals, etc. I'm not expecting the whole summer to be great, but so far, so good. I pay for college, but he pays books, his gas, any car repairs, and all his fun money. Seems to work for us. FWIW.

Sue
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Registered: 11-28-1999

My now 22 yr old DD did say something once about "now that I'm 18 I can do what I want."

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Registered: 10-16-1999

I have to admit, when I saw the title of this thread, I had to smile because I had a feeling it was going to go just as you outlined it.