Do I have 'STUPID' on my forehead?
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Do I have 'STUPID' on my forehead?
| Thu, 01-31-2008 - 11:35am |
I checked the mirror and I did not see it but it MUST be there!
| Thu, 01-31-2008 - 11:35am |
I checked the mirror and I did not see it but it MUST be there!
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My dd told me recently that I am naive....lol. I'm sorry, we don't make it to 40 something still being naive.
Let us know how it goes for you. hang tough!
I was surprised at how long DS kept denying stuff his senior year, before finally telling me the truth (well, I'm pretty sure I got at least 1/2 of the truth). He often would come up with excuses, too, when I grounded him. One time he even had a friend call me and tell me that they "needed" him at the basketball game to cheer the team on. Yeah, right...that one kid in the stands is going to make a difference.
Good luck. There is some relief when they turn 18 and we know that we're not legally responsible for them, even though we still hope they'll heed all our advice and live by the morals with which we raised them.
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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM
As the parent of an 18 yr old, I don't know if there was any "relief" when she turned 18 since it happened before grad from h.s.
Sometimes don't you just wonder about the lies? After we told Kelsie that she could no longer see the awful boyfriend she got up early in the morning, since she couldn't sleep, and went to bff's house. when I asked how she got there she said bff came and picked her up. I talked to bff's mom the other day and found out that bff didn't have a car at that time. Kelsie had walked there at 5:45 a.m. in the pitch dark. When I asked why she didn't just tell me she walked she said because you were already mad, I didn't want you mad about that too.
Why don't they get it that if they lie about it they will be in more trouble and we will be even madder when we find out?
Sue, mom to Leah and Seth
I think the relief came because, until they are 18, our kids are our legal responsibility. And some parents with perfect children feel that if a kid age 16 or 17 does something wrong, that the parents are to blame--not totally, but at least 50%. I know that's how I felt others perceived it after DS got in trouble at age 17.
DS was a young senior, and I think the parents of his 18 yo friends loosened their grip quite a bit when their sons turned 18; and then there was my follower 17 yo, acting like his 'adult' friends.
That's just the way it is. There is no right or wrong when it comes to our perceptions that are based on each individual's, separate experiences.
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http://www.pnhp.org/news/2009/october/meet_the_new_health_.php
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQTBYQlQ7yM
Ramona Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!
Perfect children?
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