Our DS15 is pretty level headed, good kid,
I'm sure you've read my pot smoking post below.
You're the parent and he's the child so of course you have the right to set the rules. No matter how good, smart, etc. teens are many if not most of them go through a phase where they are going to test those rules. And the 'everybody else can do it' has been around for a long time. Just remind him that you aren't 'everybody else's' mom. We, too, had the rule that they couldn't be at home or at someone's home with no parents as young teens. By the time they were 15 we would let them have a TRUSTED male friend whose parents we knew over if we went out for dinner or they could go to those friends' homes if their parents were gone. We kept the no girls over unsupervised all through high school, though. Obviously 'where there's a will there's a way' but it didn't means that we were going to make it easy for them!
Hang in there. I'd like to say it will pass soon but in reality - he's probably going to be angry at you for one reason or another for the next few years! The storming out of the house for hours and not knowing where he was would have bothered me. I'd make sure he knows that if that happens again there will be swift consequences. Slamming into his room and listening to music or out to the yard to shoot baskets or something is one thing. Did you find out where he went?
You are right Pam, that I would find out where he went.
Thank you. I always treasure your advice in particular, jlsjjsmom, if you are the
I have a really good friend who has always tried to maintain a close relationship with her kids, and she would talk about how hard it would be when the time came for them to leave.