Do you buy gifts for every teacher once kids start switching classes?

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Do you buy gifts for every teacher once kids start switching classes?
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Tue, 12-11-2012 - 1:12pm

We've always bought gifts for my kids' teachers but it was much easier when they were youngers and only had 1-2 different teachers each year. Now that they are older and are switching classes, I'm not sure what to do. I'm leaning towards still getting each teacher a gift but with 7 different periods each, I'm not going to be able to afford as nice of gifts as we used to. 

Do your teens still bring each teacher a gift for the holidays? What do you usually give?

Thanks!

Lisa 

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Registered: 05-27-1998

We sometimes, but not always, do little packages of baked goods and Christmas cards for the teachers. This year, DD wrote each of her teachers a note and included a little packet of seeds for each one. (The seeds cost her a dollar each, and she has money from her nanny job this past summer.) DS didn't want to do anything, but my parents' group did provide a breakfast for the teachers in the faculty lounge so I think we're off the hook.

Other things I've done in the past are to write notes to specific teachers who have been especially supportive of my children, baked mini-loaves of bread in those little ceramic pans you can get for a buck at craft stores, and left plates of cookies in the office. No, I am not Martha Stewart.

The great thing about having kids in middle or high school is that you don't feel like a schmuck if you don't bring gifts for the teachers.

Edited to correct an egregious grammatical error

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Registered: 05-27-1998

" I'll bet most of the elementary school teachers would really rather not be given gifts." Yep, how many smelly candles does a person need? And sometimes the wealthy (and show-offy) parents go way overboard and buy expensive gifts that embarrass the teacher and make the other kids and parents feel awkward.

When I was room mother for my son's class, we just took up an anonymous donation from any parent who wanted to give, and bought a Visa gift card for her. This wasn't my idea, but I thought it was a nice way to handle the gift issue.

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They used to do that sort of thing in elementary school too.  But in middle school, the teachers each have 150 students a day that they spend 40 mins with - they know the kids, but not very well unless they're also leading extracurricular activities.

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I feel a lot better knowing no one else does it at this level and it's not an "expected" thing. Thanks!

Lisa

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When my DD and DS were in 5th and 6th grade they each had three teachers--one for homeroom, then they would rotate among the other classrooms in their respective grade levels for other subjects.  I used to do things like make each teacher some homemade bread and homemade jam or one year I did a homemade soup mix in a jar for their teachers.  Once they reached 7th grade however, it just got to be too much, so we stopped giving teacher gifts.

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Registered: 10-23-2001

I stop the teacher exchange at middle school, Both of my girls - 1 middle schooler and 1 high schooler have as many as 10-12 teachers and there's no way of keeping up anymore!  One of my DD's is in special ed and that teacher did treat the class to treat bags, it had a wallet size notebook, pen and candies in it, DD got her nothing but I do expect her to write a thank you! 

 


 


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