Do you buy gifts for every teacher once kids start switching classes?

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Do you buy gifts for every teacher once kids start switching classes?
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Tue, 12-11-2012 - 1:12pm

We've always bought gifts for my kids' teachers but it was much easier when they were youngers and only had 1-2 different teachers each year. Now that they are older and are switching classes, I'm not sure what to do. I'm leaning towards still getting each teacher a gift but with 7 different periods each, I'm not going to be able to afford as nice of gifts as we used to. 

Do your teens still bring each teacher a gift for the holidays? What do you usually give?

Thanks!

Lisa 

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Registered: 10-23-2001

I stop the teacher exchange at middle school, Both of my girls - 1 middle schooler and 1 high schooler have as many as 10-12 teachers and there's no way of keeping up anymore!  One of my DD's is in special ed and that teacher did treat the class to treat bags, it had a wallet size notebook, pen and candies in it, DD got her nothing but I do expect her to write a thank you! 

 


 


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Registered: 01-13-1999

When my DD and DS were in 5th and 6th grade they each had three teachers--one for homeroom, then they would rotate among the other classrooms in their respective grade levels for other subjects.  I used to do things like make each teacher some homemade bread and homemade jam or one year I did a homemade soup mix in a jar for their teachers.  Once they reached 7th grade however, it just got to be too much, so we stopped giving teacher gifts.

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I feel a lot better knowing no one else does it at this level and it's not an "expected" thing. Thanks!

Lisa

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Registered: 07-24-1997

They used to do that sort of thing in elementary school too.  But in middle school, the teachers each have 150 students a day that they spend 40 mins with - they know the kids, but not very well unless they're also leading extracurricular activities.

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Registered: 05-27-1998

" I'll bet most of the elementary school teachers would really rather not be given gifts." Yep, how many smelly candles does a person need? And sometimes the wealthy (and show-offy) parents go way overboard and buy expensive gifts that embarrass the teacher and make the other kids and parents feel awkward.

When I was room mother for my son's class, we just took up an anonymous donation from any parent who wanted to give, and bought a Visa gift card for her. This wasn't my idea, but I thought it was a nice way to handle the gift issue.

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Registered: 05-27-1998

We sometimes, but not always, do little packages of baked goods and Christmas cards for the teachers. This year, DD wrote each of her teachers a note and included a little packet of seeds for each one. (The seeds cost her a dollar each, and she has money from her nanny job this past summer.) DS didn't want to do anything, but my parents' group did provide a breakfast for the teachers in the faculty lounge so I think we're off the hook.

Other things I've done in the past are to write notes to specific teachers who have been especially supportive of my children, baked mini-loaves of bread in those little ceramic pans you can get for a buck at craft stores, and left plates of cookies in the office. No, I am not Martha Stewart.

The great thing about having kids in middle or high school is that you don't feel like a schmuck if you don't bring gifts for the teachers.

Edited to correct an egregious grammatical error

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Registered: 11-28-1999

No, my son is in 11th grade & has 7 classes this semester.  I'd say that if he wants to give a favorite teacher a gift, then he should buy it anyway.  Can you imagine that 100's of kids that a teacher teaches in a day are all buying them candles or soap or something?  I really think that they would prefer that parents donate to the PTA (in our high school they stopped doing those fundraiser things where people bought stuff they didn't want and just asked parents to make donations) because then the PTA will buy supplies for the school.  Or there might be a separate fund for school supplies.  I do think that a gift certificate for a store that sells school supplies would be a good idea since I know a lot of teachers have to buy things with their own money for school.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Actually in middle and high school parents were encouraged to kick in to a breakfast for the teachers come end of semester grading time in December - bring in bagels or juice or whatever, that way it went to all.
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Registered: 07-30-1997
No, not that long - just mentioned 5th grade on we just did something like special cocoa and a travel mug which they probably already had tons of, or something ds used to make.
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Registered: 07-24-1997

Heck no!  That's one GOOD thing about middle school and all those different teachers - not having to give teacher gifts anymore!  I don't think any of them expect it, and I'll bet most of the elementary school teachers would really rather not be given gifts.

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