Do you let your teens' BF/GF stay over?
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Do you let your teens' BF/GF stay over?
| Sat, 02-18-2006 - 9:31am |
Just wondering... I keep hearing about friends of my kids who have their BF or GF stay overnight. I don't know where they sleep. I do know that one friend has her BF stay overnight and sleep in her bed (granted he IS a nice guy and great BF and I think the parents would like the keep their relationship going), but I am quite surprised. My husband flat-out says NO. I let the BF stay one night when he was not feeling well. DD took care of him and they did not sleep together. There was one night she stayed at his house on the couch. Now, however ... "the horse is out of the barn" and she is always asking if he can stay overnight. She says she will sleep on the cot (in the same room) and he will sleep on the bed. Last night she asked and I said no... that they should just sleep at their own houses. Of course she said, "Why, you let him stay before." Then she tells me about close friends of ours who do this all the time and the BF is a freshman and dd's friend is a junior. Other friends do this too. What are your opinions on this?

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I just glance at the outline view of the other responses, but I have the distinct feeling they are along the line of "when pigs fly."
I would NEVER allow a bf to spend the night for no good reason - as in a tornado has not torn through my town that evening (ditto an Ohio snowstorm), or some extroadiary-but-not-impossible situation that could crop up. In case of such an emergency (or unusual, unforseen, not repeatable situation), bf would sleep on the couch in the basement (nevermid that we are just in the process of finishing said basement and there's not couch there - yet) and dd would sleep in her room. They would retire to their respective sleeping places before one of the grownups went to sleep ... and we'd let them know we'd sleep very lightly. We have an old house with creaky stairs. It is impossible to sneak down them (if an adult is paying attention - and we would be).
Dd had a super babysitter, Tiffany, from the time she was four until she no longer needed a sitter. Tif is truly a dream child - responsible, trustworthy - with super parents. When she was around 18, friends of both sexes crashed at her house on a regular basis after staying up late watching movies. It made more sense to her (very vigilant) parents than having them brave the country roads around here in the middle of the night. Tif doesn't drink and neither do her friends - I truly believe this was innnocent. It did change my mind somewhat on the co-ed sleeping thing. Or at least it made me say "never say never". My dd is only 14 though - and one-on-one is very different.
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