Do you take away cell phone for punishment?

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Registered: 08-16-2005
Do you take away cell phone for punishment?
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Sun, 02-06-2011 - 2:12am

i have told my teenage son when he is disrespectful, i will turn off his cellphone.

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Avatar for suzyk2118
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Registered: 07-30-1997
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 8:43am
For us we set ground rules on the phone and only punished via the phone if it was a phone offense. For instance we said no texting during meals - if he did, we took it away til after the meal. If he didn't come home on time and didn't answer his cell when we'd call to find out status, he knew he could be grounded maybe without the phone while in the house, but, not taking the phone away once he was back out as it was the means of communication we still needed. FWIW

Sue
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 9:38am

I think consequences need to be related to the "crime" - and preferrably natural consequences.

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Registered: 03-27-2005
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 11:54am

The only time I would take the phone would be if he voilated the house rules regarding the phone.

I don't believe in using abritrary punishments.

Avatar for sabrtooth
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 12:12pm

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 2:35pm

My kids have a (meaning 1 phone) that's shared between them.

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 2:40pm

OOPS- I read and replied to your other post first. This is the 17yo son that dosen't live with you and uses your place as a hotel? WHY are YOU paying for his cell phone at all? From what you said there, he dosen't have time to talk to you and gets mad at your twice a week texts. So what if he has an ER, flat tire or accident? Are you paying for his car and insurance too? No insurance? He shouldn't be driving to get in any of those situations. But c'mon- even I can change a flat tire!

"he is so stubborn - i don't think it will even effect him"

Let him be pissed off. Enabling his behaviors leads to a sense of entitlement that it sounds like he may already have. I know there isn't alot of information between this and the other post, but from what you HAVE said, it sounds like what you've done so far isn't working...so do something different. But you have to stick with whatever it is you decide to do.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 2:40pm

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Registered: 01-21-2008
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 3:08pm

"My kids have a (meaning 1 phone) that's shared between them.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 4:29pm

I would only take away the cell as punishment if it was a cell phone related offense, like my DSD used to be on the phone very late at night on a school night so the phone was taken away.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Sun, 02-06-2011 - 5:00pm

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