Does it matter who her *bestie* is?!

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Does it matter who her *bestie* is?!
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Tue, 07-05-2011 - 11:09am

So the summer is off to a bit of a slow start..dd has returned from her visit from dads and has whined continuously that she is *bored* and never gets to see her *bestie*..during the school year she was friends mostly with boys, and told me had more in common with them than her girlfriends..okay. So it turns out she has been texting the boy she calls her lunch buddy from this past school year..not only texting, but she used up all of her minutes (300) in one day talking to him. Last week, they wanted to meet at the movies, and I thought this would be fine. So they decided on a movie, time etc.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Fri, 07-08-2011 - 8:59pm

I can totally see this happening with my 16 yo DD. She has been in school with half of

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Registered: 10-06-2010
Sat, 07-09-2011 - 12:08pm

It is entirely possible for boys and girls to be just good friends, and nothing more. Especially if they have know each other for a long time.

That said, I think there might be more going on here. Using up an entire month's worth of minutes in one day, his mother paying for the movie tickets, hugs, etc.

If you don't want her to really "date" at 15, tell her. Talk to her about her relationship with her friend.

And if this is all because she is "bored", then the solution is simple - tell her to get a part time job. It will give her something constructive to do, and she can use her money to pay you back for her outrageous cell phone costs.

 

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