Yeah, we did get off track--but I posted before about anyone whose teen was going to a performing arts school, so I was really glad to read your note here.
My DS-18 is currently not working...when you originally asked, he was...he's worked since he was 14 or 15, I forget...his first job was in a small country market. He loved it and it gave him a ton of confidence and money too. ($8.50/hr.!) He did that for a couple of years, then quit...rightly so. The boss called at 7 a.m. on a day school was cancelled due to a blizzard and told him to come in, now. We weren't even plowed out, he was still a fairly new driver and I said don't go. His boss says come in now or you're fired and DS said I guess I'm fired. So, he didn't really quit, but that's what happened. (there was other stuff prev. where he took advantage of the kids) He got another job at a brand new restaurant, washing dishes...less money, but way closer to home. Did that for a month, but then hated it, things changed,
Well, it depends. Both my kids did not work during high school and both know the value of money. They both are very frugal. I didn't work during high school either and I am most likely older than you.
Now, of course, we have different expectations. Here, it is extremely rare for kids to have their own cars. Refusing hardship? That statement assumes that the kids are given "stuff".
If my DD wanted a car, I would say fine but if you afford a car you can afford your tuition and your clothes and everything else. A car here is a luxury. I would say the same to my son. Any money they make (during the summer) goes towards saving for school.
It also depends what program they are in high school and in university. There is no way either of my kids could get the marks they are if they worked. And, with their marks, they get scholarship money. And the scholarships are much more than any money they would earn during the school year.
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My DS 17 works, and I couldn't be more proud.
Wow,thank you....I am SO very proud of my son on the work front.
My oldest daughter just turned 17.
Mom to Emily (18), Conor (17) and Hannah (12)
Wife to David - 8/20/88
My DS-18 is currently not working...when you originally asked, he was...he's worked since he was 14 or 15, I forget...his first job was in a small country market. He loved it and it gave him a ton of confidence and money too. ($8.50/hr.!) He did that for a couple of years, then quit...rightly so. The boss called at 7 a.m. on a day school was cancelled due to a blizzard and told him to come in, now. We weren't even plowed out, he was still a fairly new driver and I said don't go. His boss says come in now or you're fired and DS said I guess I'm fired. So, he didn't really quit, but that's what happened. (there was other stuff prev. where he took advantage of the kids) He got another job at a brand new restaurant, washing dishes...less money, but way closer to home. Did that for a month, but then hated it, things changed,
Please don't feel you gave TMI--I guess tht means too much information.
I know what you mean about school being their work.
Well, it depends. Both my kids did not work during high school and both know the value of money. They both are very frugal. I didn't work during high school either and I am most likely older than you.
Now, of course, we have different expectations. Here, it is extremely rare for kids to have their own cars. Refusing hardship? That statement assumes that the kids are given "stuff".
If my DD wanted a car, I would say fine but if you afford a car you can afford your tuition and your clothes and everything else. A car here is a luxury. I would say the same to my son. Any money they make (during the summer) goes towards saving for school.
It also depends what program they are in high school and in university. There is no way either of my kids could get the marks they are if they worked. And, with their marks, they get scholarship money. And the scholarships are much more than any money they would earn during the school year.
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