"Don't Tell Dad." Do you?

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Registered: 03-29-2005
"Don't Tell Dad." Do you?
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Mon, 09-05-2011 - 11:26am

My son recently confided in me about some of his behaviors.

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 11:35am

Fortunately I"ve never been put into that position. From the time the boys were young most 'big' talks were done by both of us, either together or separately. I don't think I could ever promise to keep something big like drugs or other illegal activity a secret from their dad. Now if it was something 'male related' I could understand. For example once older ds thought he detected a lump in his testicle and called dh about it; dh, of course, told him to get it checked out. Older ds did tell me about it later after it all came back fine but didn't want to worry me at the time. There was also a question/issue he talked to dh about a couple years ago that at the time he asked dh not to tell me about but again it was kind of a male health thing. Had I had daugthers and one of them had come to me with questions or concerns about their period or something but didn't want me to tell dh out of embarassment I would likely have respected that unless it turned out to be a major health issue.

Pam
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 5:12pm

I think when you're married it's a bad precedent to set to keep things from your spouse.

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Registered: 08-08-2009
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 5:43pm

I like those "we are a unit" words.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 5:50pm

I handle it exactly the way you do.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 6:20pm

My dd's are 27 & 30, and they do occasionally remind me

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 10:07pm

my kids know that not only do I tell DH everything, but the deli guy at stop and shop too.

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Mon, 09-05-2011 - 10:09pm

Amen kimmybabe2009!

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Registered: 07-24-1997
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 11:20am

I don't think my kids have ever said "Don't tell Dad."

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 12:42pm

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Registered: 11-01-2001
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 12:56pm

When my dd#1 was about 4 years old I discovered little finger prints in the stick of butter on the kitchen counter.

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