ds 17 on friday...am i holding the rains

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ds 17 on friday...am i holding the rains
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Wed, 05-17-2006 - 11:37pm
well, i'll try and be brief. my ds 16 will be 17 on friday. my son since the age of 13 has taken zoloft /clinically depressed they said. well, i have never seen the bad in my son. i guess that's what most moms do. oh, since toddler/kindergarden the teachers would tell me , "he's a likable child but he's disruptive to the class" . straight through to 8th grade. but his grades were awsome. smart kid. into highschool he had matured and the disruption simmered down i guess. i know now that he smokes pot on occassion and he smokes cigarettes. i believe he drives fast because when we are with him, we constantly have to tell him to slow it down. omg, this kid is scaring me. now today he tells me he wants to join the marines :( i know they want to serve their country. but i don't want him to. we are in a war and my son has no disapline. he doesn't seem the material. my nephew is now in iraq for a year and we have just been crazy with worry. he has his prom on friday. he wants to go to a party til 12 then to another party and sleep over. i am just so scare to let loose and let him go. am i being crazy about this. i know they grow up and you have to let them venture but i know what's out there, i know what i was doing at age 17 and i don't want him doing it. it's worse now days. should i chill a little? i don't me on the drugs or smoking either about chilling..i am on his care constantly. i know he doesn't drink alcohol.

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Fri, 05-19-2006 - 11:54am
I'm going to open my big mouth too, at the risk of being sarcastically called the "ooorah mama" again,,,,You have every right to voice your opinion. and i will applaud you for being such a strong mother bear. i do not wish other children to go fight this war.. i don't want any of our children over there. it's my fear, i was in lebanon last year and the times that we were outside the village was scarey. there were soldiers everywhere, the building in Beruit are still destroyed with bullet holes everywhere. i have two children boy and a girl. i wish i can keep them toddlers under my wing forever. i know that i can't. i know i have to let them go. let them venture into what ever interests they have. even the armed services. ..........................my initially question was my stressed out mind for tonights prom that he has and he wants to go to two parties. and he has work at noon the next day.
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Fri, 05-19-2006 - 6:36pm

I'm sorry I misread your comments... life is indeed stressful as a military mom, sometimes I read things into posts re: military service that isn't intended.

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Sat, 05-20-2006 - 12:30am
i am sure there are no words to express how proud you are of your sons. not only for wanting to protect their country but for holding their heads high like the fine molded men that they are and moving forward for a good cause. i think there must have been some great up bringing there.........well, i think i am making it through prom night. it's 12:30 and my son just called. he is at the second party and he is to sleep there. he picked up a female friend on the way which he did not tell me it was in the plans and i told him he could not drive her home. he promises me that she is allowed to stay over the friend's home and was not driving til morning when he has to go to work at 11:00. one of his friends lost their lives tonight. car accident. Dear God what the family must be going through. always, prom night there is some tragedy. i was praying so hard for these kids to make it through the night safe and sound. he flipped his car on it's side. he was alone in the car and was already gone when the ambulance got to him. i told my son i'd come pick him up if he wasn't ok and he said he'd rather hang there w/friends. were do the years go? i only have two and they are of different sexes so i don't have any up front to break the ice for me. ;( ohhhhhhhh, now my 15 yr old want to go across the street. there is annother prom party there and she knows the kids there that were close to the boy that died tonight. she wants to go comfort for a while...omg., i guess i should let her go for 1/2 hr. it's right across the road from me. wow, do mom's ever have a day where she's not worried or upset about something. ? i don't know how my mother did it w/7 of us. well, God Speed to our boys and girls over there. hopefully they will all come home soon. safe. thankx.
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Sat, 05-20-2006 - 8:18am

<<wow, do mom's ever have a day where she's not worried or upset about something. ?>>


Ummmm... NO! LOL

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