ds just told me he wants to stop the med

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Registered: 04-02-2003
ds just told me he wants to stop the med
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Fri, 05-30-2003 - 7:48am
he has been on medication for anxiety, as well as therapy, but he *believes* (no, sorry , he *KNOWS*) that what *really* helps is the therapy, and he doesn't want to take meds anymore. period. he has been on the pills for about two months. and it REALLY helps, no doubt about it. I was the worlds' biggest anti-meds person out there, I wouldn't even take a pain killer for a headache. but I have learnt, that meds do work. and are sometimes needed...

sigh.....

I can't FORCE him to take the pills. well, maybe I could bake them into brownies or something???? we are seeing the therapist on sunday, so of course i will raise that issue with her. he sees her alone on monday.

never a dull moment here.....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-30-2003 - 1:59pm
Maybe a month or two off the meds is what he needs to convince him they really do help. That is, if he's not in danger of becoming suicidal if he stops taking them. Hopefully the therapist will have some ideas for you. Good luck.

Lynne

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-30-2003 - 3:41pm
He probably feels better because of the meds, in addition to the therapy. Maybe the therapy would have taken longer to work if he wasn't on the meds. I hope his therapist can talk him into continuing them for a while. I had to take meds as a teen (for something else) and I hated it. It's an independence/control type of thing. Good luck
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Registered: 05-19-2003
Sat, 05-31-2003 - 12:37am
I have to agree with Lynn and Shady. See the boy's therapist and get their opinion. Maybe a week off the meds would convince him that they really are necessary, but it depends on what they are and just what they are for.

I'm glad to hear that he is happy with therapy - most teens would rather ditch that than the meds. :D

Lynette

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sat, 05-31-2003 - 2:09pm
thanks to you all... H and I will see the therapist tomorrow - actually, she is a family therapist who has been just great for ALL of us. so we will of course raise that issue. i realize that he feels *better* so he just believes its the therapy. i keep encouraging him that he is very courageous for getting help and keeping up with the therapy.

DS is between psychiatrists right now - we went to one privately but can't continue with her (too expensive) so we are waiting to see one thru our health fund (someone who was recommended to us by the private one). but he doesn't even want to wait until he sees the psychiatrist anyway.

on the bright side - he is back to exercising every day. he understands that he needs SOME kind of social life, and is willing to work on that. WANTS to clean up his room. including taking down the curtains and washing them, and washing the windows!!!!!

so - he is been OFF the meds for about 48 hours, and so far all is calm.....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-02-2003 - 11:31am
He stopped the meds cold turkey? I know that some meds are introduced gradually, and that they should be stopped gradually under a doctor's care. I hope he remains ok.