DS in Tears on Last Day of School

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DS in Tears on Last Day of School
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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 2:32pm

I guess the fact we're moving away finally hit DS. When I picked him up after the last day of school just a few minutes ago, he was in tears. Saying goodbye to his friends was harder than he (or I) realized it would be for him. I've tried to 'talk up' the moving thing while acknowledging the scariness at the same time but this is my sentimental, don't like change, kid and seeing him so upset is just awful!

I made up some little business cards last night that have our new address, his cell phone number, email address and his im sign on so he could pass them out to all his friends but he said he had to have one of his friends do it. It was too hard for him.

Thankfully, his bff came home with him so he's not alone feeling bad -- at least he has company to feel bad with. I gave him a huge hug, but there isn't much I can say that will help much. Ugh.

DD on the (extreme) other hand, has barely a second thought about this move.

I know I'm just venting here, but ... any advice or suggestions?

Thanks,
Julie

 

 

 

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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 11:29pm
Thanks Pam ... I know he'll be fine once he gets settled. He's a pretty well-liked kid here, and there's no reason to think he won't be somewhere else. In just a years' time, everyone splits up after middle school anyway and goes to different schools. But those tears brought on some serious mommy guilt!

 

 

 

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Fri, 06-15-2007 - 11:39pm

Thanks for your thoughts, Janet. We said goodbye to our yellow lab about 18 months ago and we have been waiting for a bigger yard until we got a new one. With the 2.5 acres we bought, we might even get two! DS wants a Corgi (why, I've no idea) so that was part of the deal we made with him when we first started talking about this. That will be one of the first orders of business. Plus, aren't puppies good ice breakers?

It took us 8 months to sell our home here in San Diego County. There was a literal parade of realtors and buyers through here the entire 8 months. Ugh, it was exhausting and it was less than 2 weeks before our official 'throw in the towel' date that we got an offer we found acceptable. I know what you're going through!

We close on the sale of this house on June 28, and on the purchase of the new one on July 5. We plan to arrive in Colorado on July 2.

Where in Virginia are you moving to? We have friends in the Oakton area, outside WDC. It's very lovely there, and we LOVE all the history in the area!

Thanks again for your thoughts, and good luck with your relocation. I'm in the packing up part now ... I haven't quite figured out how we've accumlated 30 years worth of stuff in the 8 years we've lived here ...

Julie

P.S. Did you see the article on Zero Tolerance Policy on Yahoo news? If not, here's the link, you will probably be pleased!

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20070615/ap_on_re_us/zero_tolerance

 

 

 

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Sat, 06-16-2007 - 10:39am
It's so hard.
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Sun, 06-17-2007 - 8:33pm

You don't have much time, Julie. Good luck with the move--everything about your new neighborhood and town sounds wonderful. It sounds as if your son is the type who easily makes friends, and I bet he'll make the adjusment with no problems.

We'll likely be moving to Vienna, just east of Oakton. I have not even seen the townhome we'll be getting, but my sister who lives 30 miles west of there has seen it with my husband, and I trust her. DH remembers NO details. He told me, "I don't remember a dining room" even though it exists on the floorplan.

The area is SO busy, but we'll be right on the metro and as long as I don't have to drive in the horrendous traffic, and don't have to cart kids all over, I welcome the diversity and the superior cultural events we'll have there. It will be an adventure after living in the midwest all my life. My biggest worry is being so far from DS17 who will stay here in MI. The next two months I'll be giving him a crash course in "independent living".

Our house here is FSBO, and I've had the sign up for two months and shown it only six times. I had two open houses-- one couple came the first time, and none the second. It's priced at the assessor's value, but here in MI I think homes are going for 20% less--the market is extremely depressed. We figure people will lowball us no matter what, so why lower the price, although eventually we may have to. There are no surprises on this front, though--we totally expected it to be this tough.

Thanks for the ZT link. It's good to know the pendulum is swinging the other way, albeit slowly.

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Sun, 06-17-2007 - 10:05pm

I had to laugh at your DH and his home hunting abilities. How nice for you that your sister was available to consult with! I'm sure it will work out well for you. Being right on the metro will make it so convenient for you to see all the sights in WDC. DD, DS and I spent 10 days there two summers ago and didn't get to see everything that we wanted to see before we ran out of time. Coming from the West Coast, we found the humidity a bit draining so we were moving a little slower than usual, though. Are any of your children making the move with you?

Good luck with the sale of your home -- it IS frustrating. We ended up accepting an offer that was lower than we hoped for, but reasonable enough that it made sense to accept it, and there were absolutely no conditions or contingencies ... not even carpet cleaning!

 

 

 

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