DSD got driver's license

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DSD got driver's license
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 10:50am

My DSD finally got her driver's license on Thurs. Of course, as soon as she got home w/ DH, she asked if she could drive to her friend's house to show off, since she is the first one w/ a license. I think she went somewhere Fri. night and then on Sat. she actually got up at 6:00 a.m. to drive her dad to work so she could have the car (and then went back to bed until noon). Then yesterday after we got home from my mother's she asked to go to a store. I can't wait to see how long this is going to last. She was already spoken to last night about going to another store w/o calling first to tell her father. Ironically, he used to give me the 3rd degree every time my DD wanted to borrow MY car. She never would have been allowed to take it so much. I was so relieved when she got her own car.

I just know I wouldn't be trusting DSD so much because she is not known for telling the truth or obeying what her DF tells her. Like she isn't supposed to be on the phone after 11:00 on a school night. I'm sure I heard her very late last night and she was just spoken to a week ago about this. I think she waits til she hears dad snoring and then makes the calls! But I'm staying out of this one. At least she remembered to pick him up from work.

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 1:56pm

Congratulations to dsd! As long as you don't mind holding your tongue once in a while, be relieved. I can't wait for 17dd to take her test and PASS it in May. She took it a couple of weeks ago and failed - the instructor said she lacked confidence behind the wheel so we've been giving her plenty of oppportunities to gain that confidence!

It's a double edged sword. With my 19dd I didn't have to worry too much. But with dd17, she's always been difficult and although she's not a good liar, she does try to pull one over every now and again. I will have to have my radar up on HIGH. BUT, I am all for her getting her own little cheap car. I don't want her driving my car and I need my car, so it's really not available to share. She's saved up almost $1750 so far and we'll add a few hundred dollars. We've been looking around. She keeps pointing at nice cars and we keep laughing. Haha - I am not a big believer in buying my kids a nice first car and if I'm going to help them get into a car, it's definitely not going to be an expensive car! Basically it needs to have wheels and run. When they are on their own and can afford it, then they can get a nice car.

You made me laugh with the phone comment. All of our phones beep when you dial and our phone is off limits after 10PM, so if dd attempts to use the phone, I can hear the beep beep beep! I have caught her so many times and every time I tell her about the beep beep, she just looks at me like I'm crazy. LOL.

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 2:13pm
Our bedroom is close to DSD's and even though DH is hard of hearing, he can still hear DSD talking, but when he goes into her room to say stop talking on the phone, she says "I wasn't talking." Then he gets her cell phone and points out that it has the time the most recent calls were made or received, so he can check. You would think she would catch on by now. Another time, I was saying "who are you calling in New Jersey?" where we don't know anyone. She says "I wasn't calling NJ." So our cell phone bill is correct for everyone's phone but hers, where it lists multiple calls for NJ. These are the kinds of lies that maybe a 10 yr. old would try, where they can't figure out that the parents are smarter than they are, but she still tries to get away w/ stuff.
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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 9:02pm
So, who is she calling in NJ?? Did you ever find out? It sounds like she met someone *likely via internet* and now is having a long distance 'friednship'with this person. I'd take her cell after 9PM every night. No exceptions.
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Tue, 04-24-2007 - 3:30pm

I'm sure you are right--that's what she did w/ this girl she "met" who was in Minnesota. She told her dad she was calling her cousin who happens to live in MN, however, he did know that it wasn't his sister's phone #. My kids even found out that she was calling this girl & pretending to be a boy. I never told that part to DH because there was so much trouble going on between him & his DD at that time and they were both in counselling anyway. We have both talked about what could happen if you actually meet someone you are talking to on the internet. Now that she actually has a car, I am worried that she could take off somewhere esp if he lets her have the car for a whole day while he is at work.

On the other hand, my 18 yo DD goes about pretty freely since she has her own car, but I just trust her to have more common sense and so far, she has shown that she could be trusted. Besides, she'll be going off to college in Sept. and could do whatever she wants then anyway. But I just notice there is a big diff. in maturity between the 2 of them. My DD has always been more responsible and has never gotten into any trouble. Not that she's perfect, but she's more forthcoming w/ me about what she's doing. She will even tell me if she does something that I won't like because she knows I'll be more likely to discuss things calmly, where I know that DSD will go out of her way to hide stuff because her dad will just yell at her.

He had already gone the route of taking away her phone, the first time she lost it for months for going over the phone bill in a huge way by making calls from her cell phone after school and before the free minutes kicked in at 9:00 p.m. Why didn't she have enough sense to use the home phone, my DD asks? Well, then the long distance charges to MN would have shown up on the home phone! Of course, she doesn't think about the fact that the calls all show up on the cell phone too. Then when DH first caught her calling late at night (on school nights), he took the phone away at night. I don't know why he doesn't do it again. Well, report cards are coming out on Fri. I'm sure her driving privileges will have something to do w/ her grades, which usually aren't that good.