I have had it with my 13 YO DD. She is really trying my patience. Here is a sample of what I am going through. Last Saturday she asked me if she could go to the mall with her friends and then, from there to a B-day party they were both invited to. I gave her permission and $20. She asked for more money but I told her no as she does very little to help around the house. So fast forward to 9:00 that night. My boyfriend and I, my son and his friend go to pick her up a the church hall where the party was held. She comes out with her hair styled in braids (supposedly done by her friend's sister) and a new Aeropostile sweatshirt. Then she gets into the car and proceeds to show us all the other stuff she bought. I'm thinking, how did she buy all this with $20. Now, earlier we had taken the boys out to an arcade. When I looked in my wallet there was $20 missing. So I asked her if she took money out of my wallet. She confessed she did, but she never apologized. Her punishment was that she was not allowed to go to her boyfriend's B-day party Monday night. That did not go over very well, but I had to hit her where it hurt.
So, remember the braids from Saturday? Well, it is now Thursday and she still has not washed her hair or showered. I am totally disgusted by her lack of proper hygiene. I have harped on her over and over again to no avail. Personally, I don't even know how she has a boyfriend.
I just can't take it anymore. She is ALWAYS on the phone and computer. I have call waiting and sometimes she has both lines tied up. I have password protected the computer, but she always manages to get on somehow. Her only steady chore is to empty the dishwasher and clean the dishes. She refuses to do even that simple task. Her room is a disaster area and she refuses to clean it.
Is anyone else having these problems?